Should I walk away or work through it with him? We've now been seeing each romantically for a little over 3 months. Been spending literally every weekend together. Up to 3 days a week together. After the first month together, I made it clear that if we were to continue seeing each other I needed thing to be exclusive for my sake and for safety reasons since we were sexually active. He agreed. After month two we decided to implement check ins to see if we were still on the same page as to where things were going between us and yet again we both agreed to wanting things to progress but still not ready to make things officially, I personally believe that if by month three we should both know and was going to bring it up by month three. Now just last week I had a medical procedure (female procedure) which he had taken me to the doctor appointment prior to and then offered to take me to get the procedure. The days after he and his friends wanted to go clubbing, I wasn't in pain and had been cleared to go about my usual routine (no restrictions from my doctor so l agreed to go. While clubbing, granted he was super drunk, he kept leaving me to dance with other girls. I got fed up and we left, i was leaving without him but his friends pulled him aside and told him I was leaving so he caught up with me. We ended up at his place since I was spending the night, I could leave that night cause I myself had a few drinks as well. He ended up falling asleep and I regrettable decided to snoop through his phone. I found old nudes on his hidden pictures and came across a message he send to an old friend from high school (she left him on read), but then I saw a deleted message thread. I recovered the old thread and that's when I say that he had the girl over just the weekend before, I was over on that Sunday and I didn’t suspect anything because he had a family event on Friday and Saturday night. He saw her on Friday night. Then again the Wednesday (day before my surgery) over. I confronted him the next day, he apologized, offered to start sharing his location with me, deleted everything (pictures, messages, and contacts), blocked the girls. We then had a long conversation about it. I asked why, he said he struggles with confidence things and did it just for reassurance, confidence booster I guess. After the talk he admitted that he needs therapy, which I agree with. I personally think he needs to stop drinking to that point and told him. At the end he agreed to therapy, which I'll help him set up. Part of me feels like I should since he's willing to get help and since technically we weren't "officially boyfriend and girlfriend" but the other part of me is terrified that he'll do it again and just know how to hide it better. Need advised.