Hey everyone, I’m in a pretty complicated situation and need some outside perspective. I’m 32M, and my girlfriend is 39. We’ve been together for 5 years, and it’s been a rollercoaster with a lot of ups and downs. We live together, and overall, I thought things were good. But lately, I feel like whatever I do is never enough.

She’s been demanding more and more, nothing satisfies her. She compares me to other guys, and despite having a good job and a stable life, it feels like she’s always pushing for more. I’ve bought her some pretty expensive things (Car, Gucci bags, Hermes, LV travel bags, etc.), but recently, she’s been calling me “cheap” and saying I don’t do enough for her. She’s been pushing for marriage, saying she wants to have kids, and that time is running out for her. I’m not ready for marriage, and it’s been a huge point of tension. She even threatened to leave me if I don’t commit more.

She has a child from a previous relationship, and I don’t have any kids. The kid lives with the dad and she sees the kid occaisonally. She’s also currently unemployed while working on her Master’s and PhD, so I’m financially supporting us right now. I’m fine with that, but it feels like I’m doing all the heavy lifting, and I’m getting very little back. She doesn’t really help with house chores unless she feels like it, maybe once a week, and I hate the pressure of always being expected to provide because I’m financially stable. Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t care about her unemployement before. Now, it feels like a burden.

Now, she’s started mentioning that I should buy her gifts randomly, with no occasion. For example as per our last conversation together, “when we’re out and see a Sephora, she says I should just give her my credit card and let her buy whatever she wants”. I’m honestly confused, she says she loves me and has been faithful (I can guarantee you guys that she has been faithful, it’s not the issue.) but I can’t shake the feeling that I’m just being treated like an ATM.

It gets worse… she constantly puts our relationship in comparison to her sister’s, who cheats on multiple men and gets loads of gifts from them. She says she deserves the same, and that I should buy her things just like her sister’s boyfriends do. I just don’t get it… why should I be compared to this, and why do I have to pay the price for her jealousy?

At this point, I’m wondering if I should just leave her. I don’t want to be treated like this, and I’m not sure if I want her to be my “wife” anymore. I love her, but the way she’s acting is making me question everything.

Need help.