Sorryy guys the orginal post have been deleted by reddit so posting it here

Me (f) and my bf were together for 3 years. He’s the kind of guy who doesn’t really talk to girls not very noticeable in class just super shy. In the beginning he wouldn’t even speak to me properly. He didn’t know anything about girls or relationships and honestly I found that really cute (I was in love, okay?!).

The first year was amazing fullon honeymoon phase. He spoiled me with gifts, outings, was super understanding… and then came the tornado.

We started fighting constantly and mostly over the same 3 issues:

He plays badminton in the evenings and says he’ll come back to chat. That’s the only time we talk in a day, for like 1-2 hours. But he never shows up on time, and I end up staying up late and sacrificing my sleep. (And we’re in India (Chennai), so calling regularly isn’t much of an option.)

When he’s angry, he just says anything stuff that’s way too personal, things I’ve only told him in confidence. No filter. No respect.

Lack of consideration Every time we go out I wait for him at the bus station for like an hour. Every. Single. Time.

We kept fighting about these same things. For two years. I’d try to explain how I felt he’d promise to change… and then he wouldn’t. His “sorrys” were always followed by “but you shouldn’t have done this” or “you’re misunderstanding me.” Never really took accountability. He gives accountability only when I make it a big fuss or I suggest breaking up. He'll cry his eyes off when I say that I want break up

Still, I kept forgiving him. Over and over.

And then recently, he said something like “you don’t care about me enough I’m the man in this relationship” (yes, I’m a girl, lol). I cried and he hit me with the classic “this isn’t even a big fight, why are you crying?”

Guess what? I forgave him. Again.

But the final straw was our s3xual life. We’re v1rg1ns but have talked about intimacy. He’s not okay with the idea of askingbefore getting intimate like I don’t expect a formal permission slip but even just checking in with a “hey, you good?” after touching me would mean so much. I had to make a big deal out of it for him to even understand it’s important.

And here’s the thing: I’m a SA survivor. So all of this asking, consent aftercare it’s not just important it’s essential. I’ve told him this. I’ve asked him to learn. He just… doesn’t.

So yeah, I ended things. And now it’s 4am, and I’m crying myself to sleep. Just wondering… AITA?

pls don't post this anywhere since it's a throwaway post

Edit: I always crawl back to him even after breaking up but not this time. So give me some advice for not going back.