AITA? I am going to do my best to make sure my story is short and quick. Mother of 2 "children", married 27 years. My son is 25 and married. Lives at home with my husband and me. I have also a daughter who is 18. I am the breadwinner for my household. I have always worked hard since before I got married. When I met my husband, he was attentive and a very hard worker. He is not from the US. He never wanted to progress, as in going to a University. I have been since day one, the complete opposite. I had a rough childhood when I was growing up. Once I joined the military and moved out of my childhood home, all I wanted was to fulfill my dream. Have a home, travel and live well. Fast forward to present. My husband has no backbone in accomplishing anything. If he does not see my cleaning he won't clean. If the kids do something we don't agree in, I have to step in and correct/guide. You know the good cop bad cop? Well i have been stucked as the bad cop ALWAYS. It has gotten to the point, that if something mayor happens he does not give me any type of support. I have a very stressful job in the government. Stress is high due to all of the firings that will be occurring throughout our Nation. I am one of the seniors that will be sending out this notices. Since the Presidential executive order i have been driving 1.5 hours to work and 1.5 hours back home. I work 12hrs a day to keep up with the work load. Last week once I arrived home, I was mentally drained. On a verge of a mental breakdown. My family knows how stressed I've been. Once I got home, said hi to everyone and went straight to the kitchen. No one had begun dinner, it was passed 6:00pm. I did not complain. My son was making grilled sandwiches for him and his wife. I begun to clean the dishes I had taken to work that morning. I asked politely if he could make me one and he agreed. My daughter was in the kitchen. They were discussing discipline and spanking. I mentioned, well you both have nothing to complain about. I spanked you as kids when necessary but I never abused you. I have spanked my son perhaps 3 times in his life. When he was small, kids tantrum in walmart or if he brought bad grades and lied about it. Nothing hard. Just a slap in the butt. Never abused him. One time when he was 15, he was being extremely aggressive and I tried to spank him, and he hit me back. My husband didn't protect me and didn't do anything to help with this one time behavior. I had to resolve it on my own. Going back to the story. Meanwhile I am washing my bowl and my coffee cup, he continued stating that I was lying and abusive. He continued to repeat on and on, you are getting me mad. My daughter was laughing and all I could think of was just heading to my room. Again, I was exhausted after that long ride home and the stress from work. My husband then walks in the kitchen. He heard what was going on. He then proceeded to put his dirty plates in the sink and demanded for me to clean up. I was feeling uncomfortable and wanted to leave the kitchen. I told him for him to clean it. Then he begun stating in front of my kids that I am lazy. I replied back to please back off. He did not. Meanwhile my son is still making comments of my supposed miss treatments. My daughter continued to smile, like if everything was fun and games. My daughter proceeded to give me the plate. My husband continued to belittled me and my son continued with his comments. I couldn't take it no more. All I saw was red. I walked towards the dining area and proceeded to throw the plate on the floor and screamed out of my lungs enough. No one said a thing, not an apology. I walked to my room, took all my husband's pillows and told him you are not sleeping in my room. Proceeded to my room and fell asleep crying. I know my mistake was buying my kids everything and anything they want. I need to add, a week prior to this incident I had treated my husband to a cruise to celebrate my birthday. I spent close to 7,000. And he did not give me anything for my birthday. When I brought it up to his attention he said, you invited me. Why should I contribute to it. It's been a week since the plate throwing incident. I have not received any apologies. It has been very uncomfortable for me being at my home. It is affecting my health. Would I be an AITA if I asked them all to move out? Wanted to give them 90 days. I believe by doing this, it would show them appreciation and responsibilities and at the same time give me the space I need.