My partner would lie to me at times. I’ve never caught her on anything bad, but who knows at this point? She’s broken agreements we’ve had about smoking and drinking, saying we weren’t going to do them anymore. I’ve caught some beer and weed and confronted her about it, then denied it. It’s nothing awful and although she’s allowed to do those things, it upsets me that she lied about not doing those things, then caught her doing them. And then lied about how much. Just frustrating. The relationship had a pattern of lying. Friends tell me to get over it because it’s something small, but I can’t seem to do it. I ended up breaking things off because of the pattern of dismissiveness, lying, poor accountability, etc