For context, I am 20M, my girlfriend is 19F. We've been together for about 2 years. I've always disliked calling and preferred texting. It's not that I'd never call anyone, but if I did it would drain my social battery pretty badly and I'd take time to 'recover' from it.

Before dating her, if I was to call with someone (for gaming or for just checking up), after an hour or two I'd already feel drained and want to just relax by myself. My girlfriend on the other side, loves calling. She used to call me lots of times (5-10 calls a day), I had told her I don't like calling and asked if maybe sometimes we could just text, but she told me she really dislikes texting so we stuck to that.

After some time, all those calls started to really drain me. It felt like I had no time to myself and I couldn't do anything by myself. Eating? On a call. Gaming? On a call. Studying? On a call. You get the idea. She would often call me during breaks in school, even though she was with friends and I told her I didn't like that and preferred if she'd actually talk to her friends instead of hanging out with them while on call with me. We also talked it out a bit about the general frequency of the calls and, even though it wasn't the ideal situation, she started calling me a little less - only about 5-7 times a day after school (which ended at 3 pm). That typically meant a call after she got out of school, a call when she'd return home, another call on discord for an hour or two to play games together, and after that a few more calls. Those ranged anywhere between every 45minutes-1.5 hours. It was still very draining, considering some days we'd go out on a date together, spend most of our day together and after I returned home I was still met with atleast 3 calls. And this goes on every single day.

Now fast forward to today, she was at school and I was home (because I didn't have college classes for today), I was relaxing a bit and then I got a call from her. She was with her friends and decided to call me because she was bored. We talked for about 15 minutes and then she left. After 5 minutes, I got another call. After the call, I reminded her that I don't like when she calls me in school and infront of her friends. Her response was that we barely call already. I pointed out that just yesterday we had 7 calls and the day before that, despite meeting up and spending most of the day together, we still had 4 calls afterwards.

She got really upset at this, said that I should be happy that she changed (went from 10+ calls a day, multiple times an hour to just 5-7) and said I was in the wrong for 'crying that we call too much'. She said there's nothing wrong with what she's doing and that I'm selfish. I told her that I'm glad that she doesn't spend the entire day on call with me, but this is still a bit draining for me and I'd prefer if we could call once after school, once for gaming and a call at the end of the day. I also pointed out that her calling me every so often makes it seem like she has nothing going on in her life outside of this relationship, and that I have things that I need and want to do outside of calling her. She got really pissed off at me, told me that I'm an asshole and said goodbye.

So am I the asshole here? As a boyfriend, should I be more willing to call with my partner?