AITA i told my "boyfriend that I expect him to be there to help at the end of my pregnancy and expect him to be also help me take care of this child not financially but physically(like being there daily not once in a blue). A little back story me and my bf started dating a couple months ago and since the beginning I have told him I am not on birth control he needed to make sure he pulled out everytime. We have also had had discussions about in the future I wanted to have more children with the right person, meaning like in 2yrs or so. He never mentioned anything about not being able to have kids nor did he say he didn't want them we've had this conversation in front of his dad and step-mom. A couple weeks ago he went out of state for work and I recently found out I was pregnant. He immediately didn't believed me even though I sent him a picture of the pregnancy test and to prove to him I had to get another one done by the doctor and record it to show that I am indeed pregnant.he then sates he wants a paternity test mind you i am fine with taking one if thatll clear his doubt, because claims that he was told by Dr's he couldn't have kids. After the ultra sound we found out the due date and conception date which I recorded and sent to him, he still doesn't believe even tho from the day we got together to the day he had to go out of state for work we were together basically 24/7. He states that he doesn't have to be concerned of how i am doing he doesn't care because he is stuck with me and he will only be there for his kid not a problem that he'll be there for his kid. However he doesn't want to be there to help me when the pregnancy gets further along to which it'll make things difficult for me to do mind u I have a 3yr old daughter that I raise on my own. I have repeatedly asked him when does he want to do the dna test because he has been procrastinating he just says he will do it when he gets time. I want it done as soon as possible so he can finally accept the fact. He says all he has to do is financial support even after the child is born all he is concerned with is his money. Am I the asshole fore stating that I will not be the only raising a child by myself 24/7 while he just works and goes living his life carelessly( i will also be working too), I already know how mentally and physically draining it is to do all by myself and to do it again by myself i refuse. I do expect him to come after work and help with the child daily as I would be doing the same. I would work and take care of both my children i work full time as a behavioraltherapistfor children with autism. Is that an unreasonable thing to expect or want? Edit: I would like to clarify somethings since everyone is focused not on the question of me being the ah** that I stated my expectations about this child and berating me because I have another daughter. I 100% do not expect him to take care nor help with my other child i have been doing that on my own for yrs, I work full time I bust my ass to put her in private school and take care of her every need. I also own my own home fully paid out for. I have never recieved nor accepted government assistance. I wasn't asking if I'm a dumbass for trusting someone I was in a relationship with, it happened it is what it is and I do not expect nor want a relationship with him anymore, he says were stuck together because of this kid but i donot believe in staying in an unhappy unhealthyrelationship just because we are having a child. He basically lives by my home, hes just out of state for work right now for a couple of months and I've never asked him for financial help nor do I care for it. I can fully do that by myself. I just would like to have opinions on am I wrong to have stated my expectations of him stepping up to be a full time father to only his child not financial help.