Hi, this is my first time using Reddit, I’ve only listened to stories via YouTube or TikTok. If this is the wrong place to post please let me know. ( I’m mobile user so sorry if it’s formatted weird) Anyhow I (19F) am always “causing scenes” at any family gathering. Recently it was my birthday. I finally turned 19! Out of all my birthdays this one was the best despite all that wentdown.

I am the eldest daughter of 7 and also the middle child. I have three older brothers and three little siblings. As the eldest daughter I was the one to raise my little siblings while my parents worked. Even though I was too young to take care of myself, they were left to me.

Technically they were left to my elder brothers but they were never home so all the responsibility was left to me. I wanted to play with my baby dolls not actual babies. This went on for years untill I was about 15 and my parents were able to get daycare/ send the youngest to school. The first incident of me making scene.

It was after my mom gave birth to baby sister. She finally was home to watch and take care of her baby. She was overwhelmed and tired. We were eating dinner at my aunts house and the baby started crying upstairs. She asked me to go and sooth her back to sleep and that she was very tired. Under my breath I said “oh you finally know what it’s like to be tired” something like that.

She said excuse me. I told her never mind. She told me to say it again. Everything went silent and no one was laughing anymore. I repeated stating “now you know how I felt raising your children these years only I didn’t have anyone to go check up on the babies when I was too tired.” After that all hell broke loose.

The night ended with tears and a scolding from everyone to me. I got “your parents are trying their best to provide for you” and such. That was my first out burst. When we got home, I tried to get the baby out the car but my mom stormed pasted me and shoved me out the way saying “I’ll never ask you for help again”. She made me feel really guilty.

Things were icy but we moved on. Then that same year at Christmas I made another scene. My aunt has a son who no contacted us a few years back and he got brought up from the car ride from my aunts house again. Like an idiot I let my thoughts slip out my mouth and said “I can see why he ghosted us.”

My mom asked whys that and I said this family is toxic and no one ever listened to his complaints. At that time I was also wanting to go no contact with my family once I turned 18. My older brother is the golden child and so I brought up how no one listened to me but they listened to my older brother.

I remember it was my birthday week and my cake had his name on it (our birthdays are a day apart) or if I was having serve mental issues it would be swept under the rug.

When I tried to kick the bucket my parents were concerned about my well being for that one day. After that they never checked up on me or anything but let the golden child feel some pain in his legs they rush him to the hospital (IT WAS GROWING PAINS).

I dislocated both my hands from cheer and I didn’t go to the doctors once. But stuff like that I wasn’t being listened too and I was used for free child care. I was bullied at school my parents didn’t do anything about it.

So I told them my grievances and an argument broke out. My golden child brother said none of what I said was true and that my mother was always on my side( only when he played mean pranks on me) and my mother started crying.

If you’re wondering where my father is he passed away and my step dad owns a business so he’s there more than he is home. So now that night is how I ruined Christmas. Even after I told them how I felt my mom didn’t pry me and offer to help or anything.

Now for what happened, it was my birthday on Saturday. I finally turned 19. All week my mom was asking me what to get me and I told her I don’t care. I’m not picky. She hasn’t gotten me a gift in like 6 years. And surprise she didn’t get me one this year either. Anyways it’s time to sing happy birthday and open presents.

Everyone got me something generic. I’m grateful but it’s obvious they don’t know my interest. My aunt said “ I love how simple you are!” And guess what.. here I go again with my stupid remarks. I told her I was simple because I learned not to expect anything grand from anyone. My mother got defensive saying I got you a Barbie dream house…Yeah when I was 7. I’m 19.

This year alone she got my younger siblings new phones, PS5s, room maker overs and such. So this caused another argument my older brother told me I love to start things and ruin the good vibes. I’m always causing a scene. I can admit that I can be snarky.

I told my family that I do want lavish things and to be extra but they never listen to me or just forget. I tell them my grievances but instead of listening it turns into arguments that the “I’m the worst mom in the world” speech happens.

Everyone walks away angry and nothing gets solved. Though I’m not completely alone my step dad is my rock and usually sends me money on the side and we have a great relationship. He stepped up. But he’s never home. And I actually made friends at college and they made me feel like I am apart of something.

But I can admit whenever I do air my issues out I do it in an explosive way so AITA? Sorry for long story

TDLR: I am an snarky teenager who doesn’t shut up and ruins the moment