So I (21F) went on a Spring Break trip with my lifelong best friend (also 22F). We’ve been close since school, but unlike me, she didn’t really make a solid group of friends in college. I’ve done Spring Break trips with my university friends in the past, but this year, she asked if the two of us could do something together.

I agreed—it felt like a nice way to reconnect and do something special, since I hadn’t had a super chill break in a while. I suggested something low-key like a beach trip or even a spiritual retreat, but she wanted something “different” and adventurous. Since we were both working and earning our own money for the first time, we figured this was a good time to plan something big.

But from the beginning, I noticed she didn’t really respect the idea of a budget. She kept adding things without checking costs. I had to sit her down and say, “Hey, this is getting way too expensive for me. Can we please adjust it a little?” I even suggested a more relaxing destination again, but she clearly wanted something high-energy and exciting. She seemed so excited that I just gave in.

Here’s where my first red flag popped up: the week we needed to book the trip, I was in the middle of one of the hardest parts of my semester—tons of exams, barely any time. I asked her if she could just go ahead and book the flights using my card (I would send her the info), just to save me a little time. But she couldn’t figure it out. So I had to carve out my own time, despite being swamped, to handle all the bookings myself.

In the end, I took care of almost all the logistics—flights, bookings, transportation. She mostly picked the activities. All I asked was that we go clubbing one night. That was my one thing.

When we got there, I realized she’d never traveled without her parents before. I had to manage literally everything. Her dream activity was sandboarding in the desert, which I think was inspired by some guy she liked who had done it. I have a history of shoulder dislocations, so I told her I wouldn’t do it, but I’d go with her.

During the first run, she fell and was laughing, kind of trying to joke with the cute guys on the tour. I warned her to be careful and reminded her why I wasn’t doing it. Then she went down a second, steeper hill—and fell badly. She couldn’t get up.

She broke her arm. She went into full shock—couldn’t talk, couldn’t communicate with the doctors, or even her mom. I had to do it all. We were in the middle of nowhere and ended up in a tiny clinic. I handled every single step—medical stuff, calling home, getting us back to the city. I didn’t sleep for 36 hours trying to coordinate transport, figure out logistics, get her flight changed, and everything else.

But here's the worst part for me: once I got her to the capital, her parents called me and basically told me I had to fly back with her to our home country for her surgery. I didn’t even get a say. I explained that I had other friends in the city and could stay there, and that I was hoping to at least salvage some part of my trip—but my friend got upset with me for even suggesting that. Her parents insisted, and it became this huge emotional mess.

She was acting like a baby—screaming, unable to talk to doctors, crying non-stop. And I get it, she was in pain. I’ve dislocated both of my shoulders before, so I know pain. But I’ve never acted like that. The level of stress this put on me was unreal.

I didn’t get to do the one thing I wanted (clubbing), and I paid upfront for most of the activities she had picked. I lost the money, lost the trip, and spent my first real paycheck on something that turned into a nightmare.

And yes, I know she got hurt, but I also feel like she was being careless. It really felt like she was trying to impress people and not thinking straight. Now I’m just stuck feeling exhausted, broke, and honestly more angry than anything else.

AITA for not being more sympathetic and feeling mostly resentment?

TL;DR: My best friend asked me to plan a Spring Break trip with her since she doesn’t have close college friends. I handled all the planning while she ignored the budget. During the trip, she broke her arm doing an activity I warned her about. I had to take full responsibility, cancel everything, and was forced to fly back home with her. I’m exhausted, lost my first paycheck, and didn’t even get to enjoy anything. AITA for feeling angry instead of sympathetic?