I moved out of my parents house at 19, with no roommates. As moms and daughters go, my mom and I were somewhat close, especially through covid. However as time went on I started to work full time and we didn't see each other as much, then I moved out. For further context, my mom and dad will be moving out of state in a few months.

My mom is clingy, and knows its. Sometimes she even embraces that fact because she doesn't see how that impacts our relationship. She thinks its "cute." For the first month after I had moved out, she would text me every other hour, and call me everyday. She would double, triple, quadruple text if I didn't respond right away. She was also super adamant about me telling her where I was at all times, and when I would be in for the night. Every single night. I finally set boundaries with her over text, telling her that I was glad she was concerned with my safety and that I would check in every few days. She ultimately hit me with a "K" and according to my dad, was super distraught over this. She wouldn't communicate with me and was super passive. I visited her in person the next day and we sorted it out, and she promised to be more respectful of my space and boundaries. She was great for a month, then she started doing the same things again. This happens every single month. She'll be really good about giving me space, then I have let her know that I need space. Then she gets upset, won't talk to me, and I have to hear it from my dad. Then we would sort it out and she would agree to giving me more space.

Fast forward to this month, I got diagnosed with panic disorder, so she's been SUPER clingy, texting me every hour because shes worried about me being alone. I am so grateful for a mom who does care about me. But I have also communicated the same things over and over. So, I stopped texting her back as much and would call her once a week, even if she calls me or texts me 12 times over the span of 3 days. I don't at all want to hurt my mom, but I am soo tired of having the same conversation with her. I don't want to be immature, but it also feels like I'm the only mature one when I initiate having an honest conversation while also trying to console her and care for her feelings because she shuts down every time. Should I have another conversation with her? Am I the asshole?