CONTEXT: I a 19yr F, and my boyfriend a 20yr M, have been dating for two going on three years. And we’ve had arguments like any other couple. But this one really rubbed me the wrong way. But I just shoved it down after trying to talk to him about it.

So I have a mountain of school work to do. ( I’m in college online) I have a schedule setup to avoid hiccups like these but I had 2 new classes this week. I took a peek into the “modules” tab of each class and saw only about 3 things. So I pushed it back because my mental health had been bad lately, not to mention I’ve had a busy week.

So all of my classwork is due on Sunday at 11:59pm. I finished my first class on Wednesday or Thursday. But when I went to check on my other class on Friday I saw there was over fifty questions in the unit one BEFORE the test. I was immediately overwhelmed and began to work on them. I took a break and started again on Saturday after coming from helping my brother clean his new house.( which my boyfriend also helped us with) I got home and just felt so stressed and overwhelmed and I communicated that to him. I had explained that I was feeling down and overwhelmed so I wanted to be alone for a couple hours. ( we both still live with our parents but we talk on the phone everyday we aren’t together physically)

He then told me “Don’t let the school work get you down. Don’t worry about stupid shit and let it ruin your whole day.” I tried to further explain to him that I didn’t like being around people when I was in a pissy mood, physical or on the phone. I hate bringing others mood down because of my own. He then suggested I go in my mom’s room and chill with her so I can wind down and try to calm down. I told him I didn’t want to ruin her mood with my pissy one because she had worked all day and was having a good day. He then got angry at me for “never taking his advice.” And then proceeded to say. “ Fine I’ll just go chill by myself and be lonely.” He then hung up.

Right after he hung up I sent him a voice message saying if it’ll make him feel better I’ll go spend time with my mom. I tried to further communicate I didn’t want to because of my mood. He then sent me, “ Do what’s best for you” we went back and forth with me trying to further communicate and him saying I irritated him and that “ he’s tired of telling a grown ass women how to deal with her own attitude” I said sorry and then he sent an emoji and I left it on seen not knowing what to say to it. He asked why I left him on seen and I said I didn’t know what to say. He then finished it off by saying “ you’re not dumb so stop acting like it”

A little after he called me and he further told me his points. I was still irritated and angry at him because I feel like he pushed aside my feelings. But I just stuffed it down and left it be. Now I’m up late thinking about it because it really hurt my feelings.

Am I over reacting? AITA?