I’m 4 months pregnant, maybe the vivid dreams/hormones, maybe something else but I am a relatively light sleeper and feel like I need 8 full hours of rest. Partner has acid reflux problems especially when he eats late in the day or makes bad dietary choices (like eating a lot of junk/fried/salty stuff and not a lot of fresh food). When he eats this way, his acid reflux wakes him up in the night feeling sick and retching.

I feel bad for him and I don’t want him to be sick - but I can’t control what he chooses to eat and doesn’t take kindly to it when I try to comment nicely on what he wants to get at the grocery store or when we’re out. (Ex - he wants a big container of cookies - I suggest fruit and/or point to another baked good that we already have at home).

Anyway he is already like a bull in a china shop coming in to bed or getting up to pee in the night and both always wake me up, but last night he was also acid reflux sick and turned on multiple overhead lights at like 3am. I asked him to turn them off and he yelled something about me not having to be mean to him.

I’m just anxious about him taking care of himself and tired of being woken up. I think it’s inconsiderate to turn the big lights on while someone is sleeping. I don’t wake him up in the night for anything and the times I have woken him up in the AM (usually I’m up before him) he is moody and upset I woke him.

This feels like a double standard or like he’s acting like a kid. I know he wants me to feel bad for him being sick and baby him but I’m tired of him making himself sick by eating like an asshole knowing that it’s going to wake both of us up multiple times in the night and make him feel like shit and be mean the next day.

AITA?