Hello everyone! I just wanted your opinions about a certain situation between me (29 year old black female) and my "friend " (27 year old black female).

So, this isn't the first time she (let's call her Mya) has been extremely out of pocket and borderline narcissistic, but this particular situation has taken the cake.

It all started when she wanted to go to out for her birthday, in which since I'm a Nashville / Broadway
girl, we used to party downtown a lot :) We literally planned this big weekend for her for 2 months, so we were both pretty excited..Even though we made it a habit of going downtown all the time anyways.

So, the day finally came and we were pretty active the entire day. We went shopping, made Jell-O shots, met up with some of our other friends and ya know, just all things fun. There were literally no issues the whole day, that is , until the time came to actually go downtown.

We pre gamed in the car (we bought small bottles of Jack and Jim lol) but I only drank half of mine since I was DD, but she drank three (100 ml) and put more in her purse. And I wasn't knocking her, I mean it's her Birthday and I was there for her. Fully. We get done, we walk to Broadway (I parked at a parking garage which is a block away).

Mya is the type of girl who cannot and will not live without having a mans attention, and if she doesn't have that, she is not having a good time and would rather snap and go home. Me , on the other hand, I'm the laid back type. I don't crave attention but I love having fun when I go out..in which is what you are supposed to. Not to toot my own horn but I am very aware that I am pretty lol ( Not to sound cocky, only confident) but Mya seems to lack confidence at certain times, especially when she drinks. And she definitely drinks a lot.

We get to a bar, and she immediately starts yelling back and forth with a random guy, all because she said he bumped into her and spilled some of his drink on her dress. They literally had a shouting match for 5 straight minutes. Him saying "you need to chill out" and her saying "go to hell, I don't date white men
anyways"..Yeah it was too much. We walked away from him and went to get our drinks-well at least I thought we did- 30 seconds. It took me 30 seconds to turn around for the drinks. only to turn back around and see that she is now making out with the guy. Mind you, she claims to have a boyfriend that she is serious with back in Memphis. Again, not to judge her, only to give you more of an insight for all things leading up to the big picture. So I get her off of him, because his girlfriend was walking up. Smh.

That was only the first guy, she did this at least six times that night. I was pretty much her babysitter at this point. She asked me earlier in the day to try to keep her in check that night, and that she promised that she wouldn't be acting too too crazy. But you'll see how that worked out.

We go to another bar, this time the rooftop section, which is where we would usually go. She gets in there and immediately tries to to talk to this guy who was standing RIGHT beside a woman I assumed to be his wife or girlfriend because as soon as Mya tried it, the woman stepped closer to her and and looked like she was about to push her. Mya is completely shit faced at this point so I stepped in and told Mya "let's go." Like this chick was forreal trying to get herself cussed out or worse.

She got mad at me for pulling her away and so she walks off to another man, and I just walked to the dance floor because one of my songs came on lol she was killing my vibe. My entire vibe at that.

So, I'm dancing , ya know, in my own little world Alone , because again, I can and will have fun regardless of anyone's attention. She is still talking to the guy and , this is when I realized how drunk she was-like I realized she had drank the rest of her small bottles that were in her purse- Because this guy was SO not what she would normally go for, and my sober eyes had known it lol She storms up to me yelling at the top of her drunken lungs, "WHY DO YOU ALWAYS DO THIS?" I stop dancing and look at her like, what in God's name are you even talking about? "I am dancing, Mya...what you mean?" She's like, "I was talking to (whatever his name even was) -and asked him for his number.." I'm like ..and? She says, "he said he isn't interested in me, but he would like Your number....." referring to me.

I look at her in forreal disbelief at this point. I look at him, back at her..and said "girl , that is All you, He is nowhere near my type and why are you getting mad at ME for what HE said?"

This is what took the cake. This girl responds "YOU ALWAYS DO THIS. EVERY TIME A GUY IS AROUND BLACK OR WHITE- HE IS MORE INTERESTED IN YOU. YOU THINK YOU ARE ALL OF THAT BECAUSE YOU ARE LIGHTER THAN ME." , and walks off.

Okay, so real quick, let me describe how stupid and self centered she sounded. I have NEVER been one to think that I have to compete against people I call my friends (the few I choose to have) Never. I feel people who believe they have competition with their friends, are not really friends. I believe Mya is a beautiful dark skinned woman. She just thinks that she has to boost up her physical assets in the tightest fitting ,sheerest dresses , in order to deem herself attractive. I'm not like that. I literally had on some shorts, a tube top and Chuck Taylor's. I hate dresses. She said that I think I am better looking because I am a lighter brown than she is...and I truly was in disbelief. Because like what in the hell?

We started arguing as we were walking out the club. I'm trying to tell her, never have I ever went around thinking I look better than anyone. And I Sure have never heard of someone pull the colorist card on me. And I truly believe it was a bullshit thing to do, especially when it comes to me "cockblocking her. I have rocked with her from 2019 all the way to now. She has said and done a lot of b.s to me and it has never sat right with me. She sobered up a bit, after we talked. But began drinking again , same routine. I was just ready for the night to be over.

What she said really hurt me. I pride myself in being a real friend, and she continues to play these mind
games.

So tell me, Am I the asshole? for being angry at her? Like really thinking of ending the friendship because she is just so, out of line most time. (I have soo many other examples.)