hey yall! just this past weekend my family got together for a wedding for my oldest cousin. the wedding happened to land on my birthday which i thought was odd since we used to spend most of our birthdays together as a family and planning a wedding on a guests birthday is something that i personally would stay away from. i tried to not think about it all week because over the course of the weekend it felt like everyone forgot and the only people who seemed to remember were my parents and my sisters. when we got to the wedding things flew by and the wedding was gorgeous. near the end of the night, i spoke with the bride and she told me that she didn’t even want a wedding. her husband (my cousin) only did it for the family reunion and the gifts. i was skeptical about this because i tried my hardest to reassure myself that they probably had it on my birthday because that was the only day available at the venue or something like that. i tried not to make a big deal about it and didn’t bring it up out of respect for the bride and groom. when the dance floor was on fire, my drunk aunt came up to me and told me she asked the DJ to make a bday announcement for me. this scared me because i don’t want my new family members thinking that im some selfish bitch. i went up to dj stand and told the guy to not make it and to forget about it. but he told me he already made the announcement and i must’ve missed it. this only solidified my feelings. nobody cheered or clapped or said anything. and for the first time i realized just how “unspecial” i felt to my own family. so reddit, am i the asshole for being upset with my family for having a wedding on my birthday? thanks all🤭