Hi! So, first time mother here, and I really never thought I could have kids. I have endometriosis and PCOS, and I’ve been told since I was 16 that it would be very difficult to conceive. On top of this, I have POTS and I’ve dealt with some mental health things, mainly from trauma. I wasn’t trying to have a child. My now ex, however, never minded each time that I told him that it wasn’t a good idea to have kids right now, but he insisted that I’d “be a good mother”. Now, I understand that it takes two, so I take accountability for doing the deed. But when I got pregnant, he wanted to “ya know” in me, but I didn’t want him to. This has happened multiple times. So, I’d tell him “no” or “im not sure” but he’d beg until I broke down. When I finally broke down, he let me know that he was going to “ya know” in me whether I said yes, or no.

Flash forward to a month later, and boom. I’m pregnant. Within two weeks of me finding out, he decided that he was going to move to Ohio to “find better work”. This was in November, it is now late April. I have only seen him once since. Nearly three months pass, and he decides that he wants me to come stay a week at his parents. He seemingly reluctantly comes and gets me, but I find out quickly that I’m not coming home. Turns out his family is in a quintessential religious cult, and I was made to read the Old Testament every night that I was there, and was told that if I didn’t marry the father of my child, mine, and my baby’s souls, would not be saved. Turns out that the father of my child left out all the parts where he tried breaking up with me on several occasions (I wasn’t easy to deal with in my first trimester, admittedly. I had to go off of medications I’ve been on since I was 19, im 28 now) and he told them that I didn’t want to marry HIM. That is not the slightest bit true.

Things progressively get more strange. I noticed that he removed the Snapchat app off of his phone, and changed his password. He told me that he “didn’t know why it was like that”. My gut instinct was screaming at me by this point, so I found a way to get into his Snapchat. I know, I shouldn’t have touched his phone. But I found that he was cheating on me with a 16 year old “family friend” of his. When I found this, he screamed at me, and it quite honestly looked like he could have unalived me. I was scared, and I was crying. He told me that if I wanted to be with him and have a happy relationship, I wouldn’t hurt my own feelings.

It gets worse. I woke up to him having relations with me in my sleep, without my consent. At this point, I just felt invaded, and disrespected. I went through his phone one last time and found out that he had spent over 10k in OnlyFans content, as well as attempting to cheat on me with the onlyfans girls he’d message. I confronted him calmly, and he tried to lie, but I showed him the proof. His face went cold, and any emotion he had, dissipated. It was like a blackness and it put a great deal of fear into me.

By this point, I knew I had to escape. No one would let me leave, and his family has cameras turned towards the inside of the house. I wasn’t allowed to leave until I married him. I stayed up all night, borrowed money for an uber from a friend, and took that three and a half hour trip home, and I blocked him a few weeks later. He messaged my friends husband and asked if they had proof of my mental health issues because I was in the wrong for blocking him while pregnant, and he’s telling everyone I’m going to keep our daughter away from him. I’m 27 weeks, and he’s only asked about the baby two or three times. I wasn’t going to keep her from him, but I have a horrible gut feeling, and I know he’s going to continue to make this a nightmare situation. I’ve had a lot of health issues while pregnant, too. Right now I have a bad gallbladder, but the doctors are trying to wait until I deliver to remove it. I feel like I’m in a bad dream.

AITA for this?