For starters, the title of this is misleading because I did not write it; my dad did. For context, my dad wanted me to make this post because he feels as though I am being a “brat” I, of course, do not agree. So, hopefully, Reddit will show him some perspective.

About a month and a half ago, my mom’s brother suddenly passed away, which is absolutely devastating. Her brother lived in London along with the other half of my family on my mom’s side. When my mom was in her early twenties, she moved to California with her sister and soon after met my dad. Since moving, she has only been able to go back to visit the family once, which was on her 30th birthday, and she is now 60.

Her and her brother had such a close relationship and would talk on the phone at least 4x a week. He was financially in a much better place than my mom as he hadn’t had any kids and had a high-paying job, so once every two to three months, he would come and visit. My mom, having had three kids and dogs and living in California along with being a hairdresser, was not the wealthiest. My dad has definitely carried the bulk of the financial stuff, but he has been out of a job for five months and hasn’t been able to find anything, so she has been working a lot more to take care of everything.

When my mom found out her brother had passed, she was and is very much beside herself not only for the major loss but her inability to go to the funeral because of our financial difficulties. When I found out about her not being able to attend, I started to save money to possibly help her go. I am an 18-year-old woman and am going to college full time with a part-time job. I can’t have too many hours, unfortunately, because of my school schedule and homework, so what I get is not much, but it can hopefully help.

The funeral is in early June, so I have been saving money as well as asking friends and family to donate anything they can. She does not know I am doing this as she would feel guilty about it, which she really should not. I told my dad what I have been trying to do, and at first, he seemed very happy and was asking a lot of questions and trying to help. Then he said, “Wow, I am so excited to go.”

I then explained that I am just trying to get enough for her to go, and then he got upset and said I was being selfish for not considering his feelings about wanting to go too. I said it seems like you’re treating this like a vacation rather than attending a funeral, and he said no, I want to go to support your mom, but being in London is a huge bonus for me.

He then went on to say that if I can’t make enough money for the both of them to go, he won’t let her go alone. Honestly, that gave me more of an incentive to make a lot of money so she can spend as much time there ALONE as she wants. And not only is she attending the funeral, but she will be able to see her mom possibly for the last time as she is 90 years old. And in case anyone is feeling generous I am more than happy to give a paypal tag and literally anything helps! And if anyone has any money raising suggestions please let me know cause I really don’t know how to start raising money within a few months that isn’t GoFundMe or having a 6-figure job. I sold my guitar I had previously bought and a few other things, but I am nowhere near enough for a plane ticket. Anyway, am I in the wrong?