So, a bit of background: I (17F) live in a one-bedroom apartment with my parents who are both in their late 40s/early 50s. We’re not financially struggling, but my dad is the only one who works and he often acts like we're barely getting by. it’s a whole mess. My mom, on the other hand, gets money from him and buys a ton of things online.

Here’s where things went downhill: I ordered a pair of glasses because my eyesight is getting bad, and I’ve been struggling to see things from a distance. I paid for them with money I got from my birthday months ago. So, the delivery guy came, and he didn’t have any change, and he was kind of rude about it. My mom started yelling at him, and I mentioned that she could pay online. She got even more upset and said it was my fault for ordering something like that, and that I should figure it out.

She then called me a "whore" for buying things I don’t need, and accused me of having an obsession with shopping. I pointed out that she’s never taken me to an eye doctor, and it’s her fault that I have to buy glasses like this. She exploded, and that’s when I snapped and called her a thief. I didn’t just mean it out of anger; it’s because she frequently buys things like clothes online, wears them, and then returns them. She even does this with cheap brands from Amazon, switching the new items into old boxes and getting the money back. It feels like stealing, and I told her that.

She got really defensive and said I needed to watch my language. But the thing is, she’s constantly making excuses for herself, and I feel like I’m just the punching bag. I also pointed out that she has piles of clothes in the bedroom, whereas I keep my books stored neatly. Then she said I need to stop judging her and that I should mind my business.

Here’s the kicker: my mom also blames my health problems on me. I have bad eyesight and a rusting tooth that they haven’t fixed, but they keep saying it’s my fault for not being careful. I can’t even afford to fix any of it, and they’re not doing anything about it. I’ve tried to bring it up before, but they just ignore me. My dad does the same kind of thing—he steals from small vendors on the street and says he’ll pay them later, but never does. It's like they both think they can get away with anything.

I know I don’t earn any money, and I shouldn’t be so quick to lash out. But I just feel like I’m living in a roach-infested house with no privacy, no real support, and constantly being blamed for everything. I keep my space neat, I love reading, but it feels like no one respects what I care about. I feel like a prisoner in my own home, and I can’t even talk to them about it without getting insulted.

So, AITA for calling my mom a thief after she called me a whore? Or should I have just kept my mouth shut?