I 28(F) and husband 33(M) are newly weds and have a pretty great relationship overall. We usually take trips each year for our birthdays as they are three weeks apart, but this year we decided to stay local as we are saving for a house and just had our wedding. He asked me what I’d wanted to do this year, and I told him it would be sweet if he maybe got me Starbucks in the morning and take me to dinner tonight. This morning, I woke up before him and walked our dogs. When I went back inside, he wished me a happy birthday all is well- i told him the cat litter smells and to please change it. He responded with “it’s not my turn, even if it’s it your birthday we have responsibilities as adults.” I just didn’t and ended up crying while I did it. I don’t know why, it it struck me. On his birthday , I catered to him happily. He also never got me Starbucks to top it off and started an argument when he saw I was upset. I told him that instead tonight I want to go out with my girls for dinner, as I feel he’s already ruined my mood. He is upset and saying that I’m being unreasonable. AITA?