Some background info me (20f) and my bestfriends (20f), lets call her Bella, have been bestfriends for three years, and friends since we were 12. Lately she has been getting very close to her coworker. And to me its fine, really didnt bother me. Until she casually told me she told her coworker about MY personal issues and the coworker is starting to give her opinions on my life, mind you i have NEVER spoken a word to her. My bestfriend has told her coworker that me and her are planning trips to Asia and the coworker is asking to go with her to Thailand instead of me, which i found a little odd, but didnt react yet. And me and Bella are traveling solo, to different destinations, and the coworker wants to join her even though we were travelling solo. It just ruins the point? But i still didnt react. After a while of not meeting, when me and Bella met around 4 times a week, i stopped answering. The thing that pushed me to the edge was the fact that Bella never comes to my place, even though she drives she says shes lazy, she comes around twice a year. But this month alone she has visited the coworker 2 times. Which again is FINE, but i needed time alone it was so much too fast honestly. And i told her i only had two days off, and she chose to hang with the coworker those days and didnt meet me at all. When i tried to meet her or make some plans she said she felt like i suffocated her(?). We didnt speak for two days, and in those two days she went around and told everyone, the coworker included, everything. Now i know this may be normal, but i have multiaple times told her i hate that people i dont know, know things about me. Especially personal stuff. I called when i was ready and we spoke. We spoke on a Wednesday. She told me she could come to my job when i was done on friday. And i was happy. We were going to meet on thursday night, and she cancelled because she was going to wake up early and work out. I got that. Of course. However on the friday, after she worked out with a friend, they hung out together. And that was okey, but she started showing signs of cancelling. Saying that the car expenses are getting to her, and i told her i would like to walk so it works out. Some comments here and there. Around 8 pm, she cancelled because she was tired and didnt want to go home get a jacket and come. And on top of that, she had work early in the morning. At this point she was out eating with her friend. I kinda got that i guess. So i thought she must be extremely tired i hope she gets some rest. She also said her body was aching, and i felt bad. However, when i was done i checked and shes now at her friends house, which is a 15 minute drive from where they originally were. It was closer to come to me. Again i get it. She didnt want to go home again and change and come, right? Wrong! She went home and with her friend. And i thought “wow i guess the car expenses arent too bad… she can drive her home…”. And i thought that was kind of mean, until i saw they changed outfits to something more like when going to the club and new makeup. I was confused why would they change to hang out at hers? And then i waited and they actually went out to the club until 4 am. She slept through work. And she told me we would meet to book a hotell room for italy, so she wanted to come to my job after her job. And i was fine with it. Until she went to work late, and her head hurts and she says its something we can do over facetime. I declined, and i declined because i wanted to meet her on one of my days of, and she said no because she wanted to help her coworker apply for collage (which the coworker knows how to do, she did it last year🙂), and she just had to help in real life and couldnt over the phone, so instead of meeting me, even though they met around the 10 pm, and she did nothing until then. She didnt meet me. I am so tired of this. And i genuinely cant imagne us lasting until our trip. I dont even want to go. Im seriously thinking about just not going. I have tried to talk to her about this, but she says im just jelous and need more friends and that im overthinking. She also takes a lot of what i say as a joke and thinks “its hard to understand” when in serious (??). I was crying… i just dont know if im a bad person for thiS