I kind of know the answer actually but I really need some reassurance. My parents are going through a messy divorce and the reason it’s so messy is because my mom thinks she has no fault in anything whatsoever. for the past 7 years or so we barely talked even though we habe lived in the same house. She and my Dad fought often and my relationship with both of my parents was difficult. My Dad was and is emotionally kind of absent and sometimes verbally abusive and my Mom didn’t care about me after I flunked the school she desperately wanted me to go to so she can say she did something right and go around and tell everyone what a great and intelligent daughter she had. So back in November my Dad discovered that she was cheating on him and like you know they are now divorcing. My Mom moved out right after New Years and I have seen her 6 times since then with half of these times fighting. I confronted her with several struggles I‘ve had in the past and have now and she just doesn’t see any wrong behaviour on her side. Instead she takes all my points and says it‘s my Fathers fault. On the other side my Dad sees my problems, he said several times that he is sorry and should‘ve behaved better and offered me more than once help in whichever case. It‘s really frustrating with my Mother because even though she is my Mother she just feels like a stranger to me, My parents bought a house on which there is still a loan to pay and my Dad desperately tried to get any means to pay it off by himself so my sister and I can have the house but he just can’t afford it, while Mom basically refuses to put any money into anything that doesn’t serve herself and always ends up with the argument that even 200€ are too much and that she then wouldn’t have anything for herself which simply isn’t true since she’s got way more than anyone else in the family. So today is my birthday and I tried to make things up with her and invited her to breakfast. Not only was she late even though she told the time, she also made me pay and left once the conversation went into a direction where she had to explain herself. She then stood up and basically fled, leaving me alone at my 20th birthday. I guess I don’t have to say that I was about to ball my eyes out in that restaurant. Later I got a call from my sister saying how I could say such things to her which weren’t even things I said. I don’t know what to say or do. I‘m starting to get to a point where I‘m breaking contact with my Mom since I can’t even talk 30 minutes at my birthday with her without it nearly ruining my entire day.