My brother is a year younger than me I am 27, I married my wife in Jan this year after dating her for 4 years, it was our first family function which we hosted after marriage where every single family members was invited and infront of everyone he called my wife 'ugly' and I'm still angry about it.

My brother showed up drunk when we explicitly told him to stay sober because my brother is a drunkard, even on our marriage day he drank so much and created a dramatic scene that it almost ruined our day and we had to put him in a seperate room to sleep.

But he showed up drunk anyway and when we confronted him he said he's not THAT drunk and he will behave but my wife got angry and asked him to leave but before leaving he screamed infront of everyone that my wife is ugly and she doesn't deserve me.

It deeply hurt her and she cried but still I managed to convince her to join our party that we hosted, but next day I called my brother and told him that he's not invited ever again and I'm even going no contact.

But my brother says that I should listen to him but I don't want to listen to his explanation, my mom says I should give my brother a chance to explain himself because I share blood with him.

But I think it's stupid, the woman I'm married to is my sil's sister, my cousin's wife alright but still we are brothers cause in our culture and language cousins are considered brother and sisters so we brothers married sisters.

And now he ended up pissing almost our entire family off from both my side and my wife's side and they don't even want to talk to him but my mom is saying that I should forgive him because I am his actual brother.

Should I tho? I think my mom is biased and she expects us to forget what he said just because he was drunk.