be me (28 m) farmer looking for love >recently divorced cause my ex wife is a cheating bitch. > looking for rebound girl. >hard time finding one cause girls my age want marriage nd I don't. >Friend from work (26 nb) invites me to a farming event. >I meet a cute girl who gardens & models.(20 f) >We hit it off before I find out her age> I find out by asking> days later, Friend asks how the courtship is going nd the girl's age> i say the age> they say it's weird>

I agree that it's a little weird but it's okay cause she's cute and I like her and I'm a good guy with a good track record of now being a piece of shit like this other farmer no one likes > friend disagrees but I don't listen cause what's their fucking ideals gotta to do with me nd my life? >

fast forward 1 week > I ask the girl out for our 1st date> it's going well except she keeps asking about my divorce and other personal shit> I tell her "you gotta be my gf to know that" everytime she asked> she eventually agrees by the end of the date> now dating the girl.> I tell friend about it excited.> I don't mention how we started dating, just that we did.

Friend messages again saying the age gap is weird and usually happens in manipulative relationships and I should stop or we can't be friends> I argue with them about it for hours cause there are exceptions and I'm one of them. I'm a nice guy.> they disagree saying she's too young and manipulation is bound to happen if it's not already> eventually I give up convincing them and don't see them as a friend anymore> I feel like shit and call the girl> I tell her my friend is calling me a pedo and groomer> she gets mad at them> she says she talked to her friends and she also felt weird about the age gap >

I cry about how sad it is > we mutually break it off.> I go to my friend and then tell  how their words hurt me and we're not friends anymore> they say sorry a lot about hurting me and that they still believe the age gap was weird but at that point I don't care> I tell them how shit they made me feel repeatedly> I say I didn't do anything wrong cause 20 is legal >

They say the wrong I did was pressuring her into being in a relationship, withholding info about my divorce from someone I wanted to date and lying to her and my friend about private conversations we had >I say they're self righteous and they're tryna make me look like the asshole.> 20 is legal and I'm abiding by the law. Not their fucking personal morals. 

Am I the asshole or is my ex friend?