Sorry I’m very new to this app, but I see these on TikTok and got into a situation recently so I wanted some outside opinions!

So I’ve been friends with this girl for around 2 years, and recently I’ve been going through a really rough time and got diagnosed with a chronic illness (lupus, which can causes extreme fatigue and brain fog. Very relevant!) because of this, I found myself exhausted 24/7. No amount of sleep helped, I was falling asleep in classes, and with my already busy schedule from school, to clubs, to sports, to work, I found that in my free time I was too tired and in pain to hang out with anybody. All of my friends understood but one

She texts me one day saying she feels like I don’t want to be her friend because I haven’t been communicating lately, which that I understood. So I explained my situation to her, telling her about the memory problems causing me to forget to reply to her and the exhaustion causing me to avoid interacting with friends (as I would’ve been plain miserable if I did hangout with anyone). She said she understood and we left it at that, but I was a little upset. For our entire friendship she has been chronically late to things, she made me wait outside her house in the car for 5-15 minutes every time I had to pick her up, she cancelled last minute all the time, we had an agreement that she’d drive me to school but she wouldn’t tell me when she wasn’t going (which was a lot) and I was late for school because she didn’t communicate, and lately has been blowing me off to hangout with her boyfriend. I never got mad or blew up because I knew she was going through things, so for 2 years I dealt with it. But for a month she experienced something similar and decided I was somehow being a bad friend. I was kinda hurt but I forgave her

A few weeks later she texts me again, saying we shouldn’t be friends anymore because I’m bad at communicating and am distant. I had to explain again that I’m literally chronically ill, and I forget to text everyone and don’t hangout often because of how miserable I feel all the time. I mention her lack of empathy and understanding for my situation after how accommodating I’ve been to her for years, and that this is a pattern because she once told me to “get over” being SA’d. We split ways because I realized I couldn’t get over her not understanding my situation after I spent so long trying to be empathetic towards her

I planned to leave it at that, but I heard from some people she was going around telling them her version of the story. They told me and once they got my side they usually agreed she was being inconsiderate, especially by dragging others into the situation and essentially forcing them to pick sides. Some people did tell me to try and understand where she was coming from though, but I really can’t, as I dealt with her doing this for years but she couldn’t even handle 2 months. Because of this I’d like some outside perspectives