So for some context, me (M20) and this girl (F21) have been together in the past for around 5 months before she ended things over a disagreement we had. She recently broke no contact and reached out to me, saying something along the lines of she had missed me the whole time, felt like she was missing a piece of her heart, blah blah blah you get the idea. So me being the idiot that I am, I decided to give her another chance. Things were ok ish for about a month while we worked through things until last week. She was just causally showing me dresses she was interested in getting, and then she showed me one that was, in my opinion, INCREDIBLY revealing. I’m not sure what to call the type of dress, but it’s the kind where there is a vertical slit in the middle that shows sideboob and cleavage, and this one showed a lot. I made an offhand comment about how that was very revealing and she said “so? That’s the point” it was at this point I got slightly annoyed. I didn’t like how it felt as if she was dismissing my concern as some trivial notion and acting like it was no big deal. I tried communicating with her that to me, wearing something revealing that is specifically designed to get attention in a provocative way is disrespectful to a relationship. Obviously there are some dresses that will show cleavage without it being the main focus, but for this dress the main focus is the woman’s chest, and I feel that it’s not respectful to a partner or a relationship to wear something like that. I tried asking her why she wanted to wear something like that, because the last time we were together she never would have, and she at first said it was for me so that I could find her more attractive. I answered this by saying that even if she was in a simple hoodie and sweatpants I’d find her the most gorgeous woman in the world, but after more pressing she said that she wanted to wear it so that she could feel confident and get attention. I understand wanting to feel confident, but I don’t understand how it’s appropriate to want attention from other men. We went back and forth on this for hours, and took some space to think on things. I wanted to try and reach a compromise on the matter because I felt it was a stupid thing to end a relationship over, and honestly I was fine with her wearing stuff like that, I just asked her to maybe not wear it to certain places without me such as parties. She was unwilling to compromise on anything, and said that she wanted to wear what she wanted and dress how she wants, and she felt I was being incredibly insecure and controlling. Keep in mind, this is the first time I’ve ever expressed an issue with what she wants to wear. I’ve never had an issue before, and the only reason I did this time was because I felt it was disrespectful to the relationship so I tried communicating how I felt about it. To be told I was being insecure really just made me check out of things then and there, especially coming from her, so I ended things. Sorry for the word vomit I know it’s a lot, there will probably be some typos here or there but I just wanna know if I’m crazy or an asshole or not.