📝 Aita for feeling guilty about mine and my boyfriends open relationship?

By linktlozomg • Score: 4 • April 10, 2025 12:15 AM


Hi! My boyfriend and I are trying an open relationship (he's poly, I've always been monogomous). Before I get into anything I wanna clarify that he didn't pressure me into the open relationship or anything I just wanted him to be able to express that part of his identity because u know it's important to him and I'm not upset about the relationship change in particular. I just feel super guilty. I've only ever been in monogamous relationships before so I'm feeling super guilty about the idea of dating other people. We have a rule that we won't sleep with other people but like kissing, cuddling ect is fine. I just can't help but feel like I'm cheating on him by wanting to also partake in being with other people romantically. He's told me he doesn't mind multiple times and that it'd make him happy if I did but I can't get rid of this nagging feeling that I'm doing something wrong to him. Like I feel so guilty about wanting to kiss other people or wanting that kind of intimacy with another person. He's so happy now that he gets to express being poly but I think he knows I'm feeling guilty about it so he recommended I make a post on this subreddit to get some outside input on it. It is something that we both want I just don't know how to stop feeling guilty about it. I'm sorry if this doesn't make a lot of sense, my head is so jumbled at the moment and I can't stop thinking about it- Any advice would be greatly appreciated, Thank you!

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