I want to preface this that I originally wanted to post in r/amiwrong but they locked their posts so I'm here. I don't think i might be an asshole but I might be wrong for being upset when he's upset about losing his job.

My (28F) fiance (27M) lost his job a little over a week ago. We have 2 kids (8F), (22mo M) and a cat. He lost his job on 3/30. The day he lost his job he already had plans to hang out for a few hrs with his friends. I gave him the ok to go spend the night instead, I actually offered and urged him to see his friends since his schedule while working was difficult since he also goes to trade school so it made seeing his friends a once every like 4 month thing. I called it his crash out night and he went and had an ok time, he came home and I was working so it was just a check in to see how he'd been feeling. I reassured him that I wasn't upset with him for losing his job, it happens. We can make bills on my income but we expeditiously applied for foodstamps and thankfully got approved.

He tells me he applies for jobs daily. I believe him, I have no reason to not lol. But figured that would be important to note as well as since he lost his job he's been handling all the chores (I still cook, handle the finances and schedule the appointments though).

But to get to the meat and potatoes here, we have not spent a single night together since he got fired. Not watch a show, not sat and played a game together. At least, not alone. When the kids go to bed and im off work he instantly hops on live and is playing with his friends. And he'll even tell me he wants to spend time with me and tell me what he thinks we should/could do, show suggestions etc but then he comes home and says "the guys and I have plans to try and get this Easter egg tonight" on COD, but last night he blew me off to play New Vegas, don't get me wrong I love the fallout games but I'm just tired of the games right now. Hes big on parallel play, and it can be nice, but ive been wanting genuine time together. Not separate but together if that makes sense. He came home tonight after his class, after again earlier today saying we'd spend time together, talking about joining the game with his friends again and i mentioned "well, im side eyeing you a bit because this is the 4th night in a row you said we'd hang out but you're blowing me off for the game again" and he did genuinely ask if I wanted him to cancel and I said no, because it's not fair to his friends who he promised he'd be on with tonight. And I know, he promised me first, but I'm way more forgiving than they are. They get their panties in a twist and complain like I'm the mistress sometimes lol. So I didn't want to deal with all that, because my fiance will tell me what they say and it's always mentally and emotionally exhausting.

Im trying to work as much OT as I can to somewhat help our situation so tonight is my first day off since he lost his job also btw, I'm off tomorrow too but he has class and I have to bring the kids to appts.

So... am I wrong for being upset/disappointed despite technically giving him the ok tonight?