i've (F) been talking to this girl for maybe 2-3 years now, we're good friends but there is that tension there, you know? it is obvious that we are both into each other.

so, early on in the relationship when we were hanging out a lot and flirting, not just in the joking way that a lot of girls do, she started to get a thing for a guy in her class. i was a bit hurt because i really liked her, and it was hard to hear her talk about him, but i let it go because i really, really love her as a person and love being her friend and she hadn't actually done anything wrong, she just liked someone else.

well, i had a boyfriend from around june 2024 till early january this year, and once i broke up with him, i started talking with her more again. this was a bad thing to do on my part, but towards the end of my relationship with this guy, she and i were kind of flirting a bit again.

this continued after it ended, and when i invited her out to the movies, she accepted, she also said 'can we keep it platonic for now' and i was like, yeah that makes sense, i only recently got out of a relationship, it's fine, i can wait.

when the day came where we went out see the movie, she immediately started raving about this new guy she liked. it hurt a lot. i'd been away on a trip to melbourne, and i'd brought back a present, a book with a bunch of information on one of her favourite films.

of course, my gifting her something didn't mean i was entitled to anything from her in return, but i really wish she would have said from the beginning that she wasn't wanting anything less than platonic at all, not just near future. it feels like, not matter how much she likes me, she would always choose to be with a man instead if that was an option.