I (M30) have been seeing this woman (23F) for about 3 weeks now and we recently had sex. It’s been great and we’ve been clicking on all the right things. Great conversations, we have very similar tastes in food, movies, same favorite color and all that. I know it’s still early but I was starting to think she may actually be the one. So far everything felt pretty good.

We had sex twice and the 2nd time she decided to go down on me. Now this wasn’t something I expected or asked for as we talked about giving head before and she said she doesn’t really like to so I dropped it. I didn’t ask about it further or pushed or anything of the sort just left it at that. Anyways we were laying in bed and she just decided to go for it.

Fast forward like a week we were talking on FaceTime and she asked if I ever thought about getting circumcised. I told her once when I was younger the doctors said I should because I couldn’t get the skin back to clean but eventually I was able to do it so it never happened.

I asked her “why do you ask?”

She said “because when I pulled back after ‘you know what’ I had a mouthful of skin.”

This made me a bit uncomfortable but I kept it cool and asked “so would you want me to get circumcised?”

At this point I think she knew it was a bit awkward because she was kind of giggling and awkwardly said “yes”, “should I not have ask’d that?”

Calmly I said “probably not.” In a normal tone.

She then proceeded to change the subject and screen shared scrolling through some reels with me as I believe she knew it was a bit awkward now and was trying to distract from the situation. At this point I knew I needed a moment as no one has ever acted that way or said anything about it before her and I was feeling a bit self conscious. So I said “I’m going to watch a show so I’m going to text you in a bit.”

She awkwardly said “oh okay” and I hung up. She then texted me, “do you feel some kind of way?”

I said “About the circumcision thing yeah I feel a bit self conscious about it. I mean you can just hold the skin back to not get a mouthful of it but I’ve never had anyone really mention it before so idk how to feel atm. I mean I get it was probably your first time like experiencing that but does it really bother you?”

She said, “I would be lying if I said it doesn’t bother me but now you just made me feel uncomfortable I think you need some time alone.”

I responded, “I agree. I feel kind of uncomfortable too.”

She then said “Okay well let’s not speak or see each other for a while cause If I can’t tell you how I feel then we shouldn’t be doing anything together and I mean anything”

I’m so confused. I was vulnerable with her and expressed how I felt about her unsolicited comment to mutilate my body for her and somehow I’m the one that made her uncomfortable?! I didn’t ask her for head I didn’t ask her for anything. What makes this even more frustrating is early this same day I was telling her how attractive and sexy I found her and she goes “really even with my stretch marks and cellulite?” And I reassured her “yes I like a girl who’s all natural and it doesn’t change how I see you”. And then this?!

So am I the asshole here?

Edit: a lot of these comments confirmed what Im afraid I already knew. Thank you guys for the words I’m definitely breaking it off with her as she is not worth my time.

For the uneducated just because someone is uncircumcised doesn’t mean they aren’t clean. Notice the first part of my post where I talked about being able to pull the skin back so I can clean it which is something I religiously do every day and especially before lying with someone.