So I (30F) have been hanging out with a new friend (32F) since December. We get along well and have started going out more together. A few months ago, our first time going out together we went to a bar event and met this younger guy (24M). I thought he was really cute. It was actually the first time I’d really flirted with anyone in a while—things with my ex were complicated, and I was in a vulnerable spot.

Me and this guy exchanged numbers and a few weeks later I ended up hanging out with him alone. We didn’t sleep together, but there was some foreplay. After that, he didn’t reach out again. I messaged him recently and got left on read—kind of sucked, but I moved on.

Fast forward to now—my friend the other night casually drops in conversation that she’s been hooking up with him. It completely caught me off guard. She also made a comment the night we all met like, “If you don’t want him, I’ll take him,” which felt jokey at the time but now feels… weird

I’m not mad that they’re hooking up—it’s not like I was dating him—but the way she said it so casually really threw me. I felt kind of embarrassed and just weird about the whole thing. I would’ve appreciated a heads-up, at least since I had messaged him recently being completely unaware of them getting together so I feel double embarrassed that he rejected me after and that I was left in the dark about them fooling around. I feel like the butt of a joke. I haven’t said anything to her yet, but it’s been bothering me.

So AITA for feeling some type of way about it, or should I just let it go?