Hi! I kept my maiden name it might be silly but I didn't want to feel like I was losing myself after getting married and it is MY name, I like it, that's been who I've been for 29 years of my life... anyway! We became pregnant and we had a discussion about giving our son my last name and from the very beginning my husband was perfectly okay and very reassuring and supportive with it. He knew how important it was to me because it made me feel close with my grandmother who had passed that same year. we kept his entire name a secret from everybody because we knew that it might ruffle some feathers. So fast forward I have my son we make the announcement for what his name is going to be and I don't hear anything from my brother or sister-in-law. I had a C-section and so I'm in a lot of pain. I'm a first-time mother and postpartum is hard! Five days after we announce the birth of my son, I get a text message from my brother telling me that I took away his right and that I needed to ask him for his permission to give my son my last name and that my husband would resent me 10 years down the line (summarized but that's basically the extent of it) my husband messaged him basically saying that he was out of line and that's pretty much it. There was no cussing. There was no hitting below the belt nothing on my husband's part and I didn't respond myself because I was incredibly emotional and I didn't wanna say something incredibly hurtful. About a month goes by and my brother text me asking if he can come over and meet my son because my grandmother was also coming to meet my son and so I laid it out for him that I was going through postpartum depression and I told him the reason why I kept my name and gave my son my last name And a few other very personal things that I was going through and he pretty much just brushed everything aside and said that we needed to have a conversation before meet my child. And so ever since then, we have invited them to holidays or birthdays, and they have come for a few, and they have invited us to a couple of things as well but now it's to the point to wear neither my brother or his girlfriend will respond to mine or my husband's text messages whether it's happy birthday Whether it's a group family text asking to come over for dinner and they are excluding themselves at this point.also For a bit of context, my brother is the only boy in the family who would traditionally pass down the family name. And my brother also has a thing about my husband, and I doing life milestones before him and his girlfriend. We bought a house first we got engaged first we got married first and we had a baby first. I didn't know that we were in competition with one another, but apparently we are. Also, my husband and I are not traditional in any sense of the word so for most of our family this didn't come too much of a surprise because of how we are as a couple. So Reddit AITA