To set the scene, I (20f) live in a 4 person college apartment with 2 other girls (21f, 19f). One room is vacant due to one of the girls dropping out of school for personal reasons, but that doesn’t impact the story much at all just a random detail. One girl I have known since freshman year and have been living with her since the beginning of last year, while the other is a transfer that moved in last semester.

The week before our spring break, I had two of my hometown friends visit me and sleep on our couch Saturday-Monday night and they left Tuesday afternoonish. I had checked with both of the girls multiple times to make sure their visit was OK and that they knew I was having guests over and when. I also know that while I am not a super clean girl, I am also not a slob in shared spaces and was very focused on cleaning up after me and my guests during their whole stay. This was one of the things I had been worried about with having guests over, so I made sure to overcompensate.

After they left, the girl I had known longer (Riley) left for break on a Thursday morning because she didn’t have class. While I had cleaned up on Tuesday when my friends left, u made a point to not use the kitchen much if at all so I didn’t have to do more cleaning before break. Riley left for break without doing her set chores that we agreed on, and I had seen the other girl (Brenna) the night before I left. She hadn’t said anything to me about cleaning or what messes she thought I made. On Friday mornjng I had an early class and wanted to leave right after, so I did. Halfway through my drive home I got a text from Brenna. To summarize, she said, “hey I’m so happy you did you and ur friends dishes but you didn’t fully clean up before break or unload the dishwasher. Have a nice break!” I was confused because while I didn’t unload the dishwasher, u did clean up after me and my guests. I didn’t do much else than what we got dirty because Riley was also having people over during the weekend that contributed to most of the mess (dirty floors, cans, etc.). Even after the nights we partied me and MY GUESTS cleaned up the cans that were thrown in the sink and the other gross trash that was left. Riley was also caught on the night we partied giving away and taking shots out of my vodka bottle that I bought for me and my friends. That isn’t the first time she has just taken from me (alcohol) without asking and then not paying me back. And then after not hearing from me all break drank the rest of the vodka and then bought herself the same exact bottle.

The only reason I chose to ghost and not engage is because: Riley is for sure a narcissist (I am a psychology major) and has diagnosed disorders that I don’t think I should share out of respect or whatever. I always felt bad for her cus of her past, but she has driven out 3 other roomies from our apartment, all of whom I am still on good terms with. One of the ex roomies (my ex bff) left cus Riley was always lying to both of us about stuff and blaming situations on the other to one of us.

Brenna is just too nice to see if call out Riley’s BS. she won’t tolerate sh*t taking and I don’t want to be the girl to start talking bad first. And Riley has a way of kissing ppls butts to make them not mad at her.

They can’t hold anything against me if I don’t say anything to them!! So AITA for just ghosting my roomies in an impossible to win situation?