tl:dr I had sex w my gf in her friends dorm room and got busted.

I (25m) and my girlfriend (20f) are are long distance. We usually see each other every 1/2 months. After a week together in her country my return trip got cancelled and long story short I joined her visiting her friend in a country between mine and my gfs. My gf is staying 4 nights, me only 2. We are staying in the friends dormroom. They’re in the bed, im on the couch. This is fine with me, I wish I could sleep next to my gf but the is setup makes the most sense in the context. I’m very grateful to her friend for letting me stay and even got her a small gift as thanks.

I wanted to give them some girl time so I went and explored the city alone all day. They asked me to bring some stuff home for dinner and help my gf cook while the friend went to a dance lesson.

We had an hour and a half and hadn’t been alone all day, so we went and got intimate. We did it on the couch which had sheets to be considerate.

15 minutes in, we hear the key turn and quickly cover w the duvet. The friend looks at us and leaves. For almost an hour she hardly responds to my gfs texts and me my gf gets panicked.

I try to console her but she says she needs space and doesn’t want me to touch her or talk. We resume cooking and put on the show we’re watching. Her only communication is related to the cooking and the show in short comments.

I personally am feeling sexually frustrated that the sex was interrupted and saddened that what was looking to be a nice evening w my gf turned into this since we won’t get to see each other again for a while. I’m also uncomfortable that her friend is uncomfortable so I offer to find a (150 euro) bus home or a hostel to sleep. At one point I ask for a hug and she gives me one. I also tell her I would like to touch her but I don’t want to make her uncomfortable so she can initiate when/if she’s ready.

Suddenly my gf leaves the room. She texts me that the friend would like me to leave at least for a couple of hours. I tell her I’ll get a hostel and I leave.

Now I’m feeling a bit pissed at her. I understand that we made her friend super uncomfortable and that that takes first priority. It just feels like it’s fitting into a pattern of me feeling taken for granted when she pays attention to the people around us and meanwhile not at all to my emotional needs.

She texted to make sure i made it to the hostel ok and sensed I was a bit distant so she asked me what’s up. I told her that I understand where she’s coming from but I’m feeling such and such. She said okay and that she’s sorry and that she doesn’t like that I’m away and angry at her but she trusts me.

I feel that the friend should have known that was something that could happen, and if the reaction was gonna be this strong to walking in on us she should have told my gf not to have sex in her room or knocked before coming in. She did text 10 min before coming back early but we didn’t see

Am I being selfish and impatient or am I right to feel like she lost sight of me needing some moments of connection/communication in the discomfort of our last alone time disappearing?