To make a long story short my oldest brother passed away in 2015 and my Mom and Dad divided up the ashes between them so they could both have a part of him - well my mom passed away 2 years ago and I’m just being brought in the middle of an apparent on-going battle between my dad and my step dad. My dad keeps texting me to ask my step dad for the ashes back so my dad can have both half’s again, I was reluctant to get involved but I decided to ask my step dad the other day about it and told him my dad wanted them back and he said according to my mother, if anything ever happened to her she wanted to be in an urn next to my brothers ashes, along with my stillborn brothers ashes so they could all be “together again” and he has already informed him of that but he is refusing to take no for an answer. My dads issue is he feels entitled to them because in his opinion it is his son, and my mother is “no longer around, so there’s no point in someone who didn’t even like him to have his ashes still” , although I can kinda see where he is coming from on some points - I don’t see it as my step dad having his ashes, I think of it as my mom still having them and being entitled to be next to her son after passing. My issue is, my step dad told me that they aren’t - but if my dad asks again, to tell him that my mother wanted his ashes to be mixed with hers, so there is no physical way to give them back without it being my mothers ashes too. I don’t know how to feel about it- I already told my dad that my step dad said they were mixed and all he said was “ok” which is not like him so I know he is upset at the thought of that and now I feel somewhat guilty for lying…AITA if I just leave it at that? Am I wrong for thinking my mom deserves to have her son with her just as much as my dad?