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I (44f) have been slowly getting suspicious that my bf (38m) is an alcoholic.

I work days and he works nights so often I’ll sleep at his house, when he’s off work he will wake me up and we will visit while he eats, showers then go to bed together.

On weekends he is off he will go out all day and night drinking and essentially fall off the face of the planet for a day or two.

He keeps a bottle of booze on his kitchen counter and last week I noticed between the morning I left and the evening I came back almost the entire bottle was empty. That night when he woke me up he smelled slightly of alcohol. - it should be noted that he works a cleaning job so he often smells of chemical and it should be noted that he has a couple close friends that have keys to his house and come and go as they please-

I asked him about it that night and he was very sweet and reassuring- he said he wasn’t sure and he wouldn’t risk his job and would never drink before or at work. I said where did the alcohol go then and he said I don’t know. He stated he didn’t think anyone had been at his house. I let it go for then cuz it was 1 am and I was tired.

This past week I’ve been there most days. His bottle of booze has been unchanged. However I found where he keeps his empties a new bottle of booze was stashed. It was open and nearly full.
A few days I noticed it slowly was reduced to about over half. He was drinking out of this one under the counter instead of the one on top.

Yesterday I went there before a doctor appointment- I left 5 mins before him and the bottle has been about the half full mark- i came back after my appointment to find that the bottle was almost empty. It also appeared his friend had been there.

Also his water container had a little bit of booze in it from that day.

When he got home I thought I tasted booze. I told him so and asked him if he had drank. He said no and got irritated. He said he hasn’t bought booze in a long time even. He also didn’t think his friend was there and adamantly expressed his friend doesn’t drink that booze.

I ended up pulling out the bottle from under the cabinet.

It was a long shitty night that ended with him breaking up with me.

I was shocked. I honestly thought we would be able to have open dialogue and understanding on what exactly life with him looks like (we had been talking about moving in together.)

Some of my friends are telling me I went too far. That I should have just trusted him and shouldn’t have been monitoring it the alcohol consumption.
He has always told me I have full access to his house. He knows I’m in all the cabinets as I keep stuff in every room of his house. And honestly I was just trying to figure it out and understand.

I have never dealt with potential addiction like this and feel horrible about the entire thing.