Hey guys, so this will be a long one. But I will try to summarize the events.

So, I am 30 (F) with a sister 3 years older than me. My parents have always sheltered my sister, a fact that I completely understand as she was always in some trouble and needed help. Money wise she has received a lot of that, she has had two marriages my parents fully paid and the first marriage was an extravagant one ( many thousands of dollars). My wedding was a small and a simple one. My parents help with some expenses but not all for sure, they paid like 1/3 of the cost but as I said it was a cheap one.The house I live in was remodelled for my sister by my parents but she cheated on her husband and divorce and she didn't want to live here anymore. She went to the other home my parents owened.

Since 2015 every month I sent money to my parents and my sister to help them, the amount averages from hundreds of dollars til a few thousands. I helped them fix cars buy cars stuff, with bills, daily products , even gas bills and I am sure I am forgetting a lot, I was almost sending a monthly salary, many times more than the average salary.

Two years ago I was pregnant with my daughter and it seems that debt got out of hand and they sold one of the houses and saved the one I live in and I also became the owner. During this time I also gave money to them monthly and to the lawyers etc I appreciate the gesture for sure. Then after 6months my sister decides she wants to take a loan to buy a house in a specific area, same area as the house my parents sold. I am telling her not to mess with loans and banks and since my parents have two houses we can split them, one each. I hate any kind of debt and messing with banks. So I offer her the house I live in, although it would be a hassle to change our lives with a baby, and me to move to the other one which is of less value due to its location and square meters, but I wanted to help her so my husband also accepted. So, she could take the house I live in and sell it and buy whatever she wishes. She denies this offer as she wants to keep the other house as well. She agrees on a house that the loan doesn't cover.. She and my parents demand I take a loan which I hated but I took one and gave them the money, but the loan I took wasn't covering all the costs.

Now one year later, they demand I be the bondsman so my sister will take a new loan for the missing sum. I don't want to be involved again with banks they had a year to find the money, that was the agreement with the owner of the house my sister bought, and I have already given her thousands of dollars.

I need to mention here I was again pregnant and they started bothering demanding money claiming that I owe them and that I am ruining their lives and I am ungrateful and so on. I loose the baby, really bad experience as I was 4 months. None of them called me or came to see me at the hospital.

However I sent my sister that OK I will help you out but it will be the last time and then I want no contact. She tells me that she is fine and doesn't need my help. So I block numbers amnd I am thinking I am done and that is good. But after like a month, I receive a letter that they don't want me as their daughter and I should help them and because of me my sister is in danger of going to prison and I am ruining her life as well as her sons.

I do feel terrible, but I am not alone and my husband doesn't want me to be further involved. However I do feel bad. So, aita for not wanting to be her surety on a new loan?

PS. I want to mention here that they did help me study. In the country I live, education is free so it is not like they needed to take loans. But I was studying in another city, and my parents supported me to be fair. They did the same of course for my sister, who was in another city.