So I’ll be getting married in the US to the love of my life. I’m moving from my home country to live and marry. My mother has suggested that I invite three members of my family that we have a “questionable” relationship with. My brother, his wife and another member. I asked why I should. She has suggested so they can’t turn around on me and get angry that they weren’t invited. The thing is, I don’t really give a fuck what those three think. They have been abusive, narcissistic and I don’t want them there. I’ve discussed with my husband to be and he doesn’t want those three there either. Well, my brother and SIL. The other member he’s so so about.

The other member has treated my mother like crap. We have a mixed relationship with the others.

I don’t care what those three think or want.

Am I an asshole for not caring?