First, a bit of backstory.

Ok, so I (18f) met the people in my friend group (also 18f) at a youth group at our church. The first girl, A, became friends with me first and we got close very fast. We starting talking in summer 2024, after aging out of youth group, and would call almost every day for hours on the phone. The other girl, S, was away all summer working at a camp. I had also starting talking to S at the beginning of summer, but assumed i couldn't text her while she was at camp, so didn't talk to her all summer.

A and S got super close as well, I'm assuming they were texting all summer, and they kind of started forming their own little friend group. A and S treat me like I'm part of the group, but at the same time added people to the group that I had never met and didn't know they were friends with, and would regularly hang out without me (which I sort of understand, because they live close while I'm 30 minutes away from both of them, but still).

At the summer camp, S met her current boyfriend.

As she tells it, he kept asking and asking her to go out with him, and she kept saying no. Finally, he said, "well, have you prayed about it?" She reluctantly said no, so he advised her to pray about it. She did, and now they're dating. I believe the boyfriend is maybe a year older than all of us?

All the other people in our friend group met the boyfriend before I did, and they all LOVE him. They think their story is really cute, while I think it's creepy. Prayer or not, he should've respected her saying no the first time, much less the tenth and twentieth times. This already gave me a bad vibe about him.

The other people in our friend group kept talking about S's boyfriend, saying that he will text them to talk about God and the bible, and give advice about certain things, and they keep talking about how godly he is. (before any of you say anything, i don't think this is a cheating situation. I mention this to show how well-liked he is). For A's birthday in November 2024, me and S planned a get-together. S invited this other girl who's part of the group but I barely know, and also her boyfriend. Everyone else was so excited, saying how awesome her boyfriend is, and this would be my first time officially meeting him, so I was interested.

At A's house, where we met up, bf was awkwardly standing around and not really talking to people. I introduced myself, and that was it. I figured he was just kinda quiet, and brushed it off. The plan was for S to drive us all to a little cafe. The drive there was very eventful.

Bf was in the passenger seat, with S driving, and he was being AWFUL. He kept opening his door and pretending to jump out (it is not S's car, it's her parents, and if anything happened to it they'd kill her). At one point, stopped at a red light, S opened his door and then closed it, very narrowly missing it being hit by another car! He kept turning on the windshield wipers, blinkers, etc., while S just giggled and asked him to stop. Not only was he keeping the driver extremely distracted, but he was messing with the car she was driving as well. Several times, stopped at a light, he would reach over and entirely turn the car off.

Everyone else was laughing, but I genuinely felt super unsafe. We live in a city notorious for bad, distracted drivers, and were driving through a very busy part of the city as well.

Then, once at the cafe, not only did bf refuse to order anything because "there wasn't anything he liked," he just sat in a chair as far away from the rest of us as he could, didn't say a single word the entire time, and dodged out of all the pictures we tried to take--not even in a joking, funny way. He had a sullen look on his face the whole time, and no one else seemed to care, but he was kind of dragging down the whole thing.

THEN, we all decided to drive to a nearby mall. While in the car, the topic of work comes up, and I'm complaining about some of the coworkers I have at one of my jobs. I mention, "and because I'm their supervisor, I can't get mad, I have to try to be diplomatic, but they just won't listen to me--" etc., and bf interrupts me to say, "YOUR a supervisor?" In an extremely condescending and rude tone. That was the first time he had spoken to me the entire day, and that's what he had to say? Everyone else brushed it off, but I was pissed.

While at the mall, we stopped by a cute jewellery store called Envy + Grace, and he goes "Wow, envy? You know, in the bible it says envy is bad. We shouldn't go in here, envy is sinful." And was being 100% serious. Everyone else laughed it off and went inside.

I feel like I might be the problem, because literally everyone else absolutely loves him, but I just really don't like him. I haven't done anything to him or S, and I just don't understand what she sees in him. I feel so bad for thinking that when she's clearly enamored with him. Idk. Am I the asshole in this scenario for not liking him?

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TLDR: My friends boyfriend is rude and awful, but everyone else in the friendgroup loves him and think he's the greatest. Am I an asshole if I lowkey hate him?