I (f24) lost my dad when I was 10. We were not well off so my mom had to work two jobs to keep us going. She was really hardworking and I am thankful for that. After 2 years or so she started dating again and her new boyfriend moved in with us. First he was ok, but later it got really bad. He would try to touch me inappropriately, he would come to my room without knocking and i even found him holding my underwear more than once. My mom used to work 2 jobs so she was rarely home. I told her several times but she refused to believe me. I was introverted and studious so I was bullied at school a lot. My mom thought I was creating stories to get attention. One day things got really bad. I accidentally broke one of our mugs and he started spanking me. I could feel him enjoying it in a very bad way. I screamed and ran out of the house. I went to a neighbour’s house and phoned my aunt (dad’s sister). I was hysterical. My aunt was living in another city but she was really nice to me always. She agreed to come get me. My aunt tried to talk with my mom but she said I was jealous because my dad was being replaced. I was hurt and hysterical and I said I will go to cps or cops. In the end my aunt agreed to take me in and my mom didnt even bother to check up on me. Ever since I lived with my aunt and her family who treated me well. I started working as soon as possible and got a scholarship for college. Later I started working and now im going to grad school part time. I support my aunt and her family as much possible because I consider them my real family. My life is good now and I take therapy etc. Recently my mom’s boyfriend was charged for assaulting a minor and they had so many evidence. Now my mom finally accepts it and she wants to make amends. She reached out to me via my aunt and said she would like to apologize in person. I said I was not ready yet. She accused me of being selfish that she spent a lot of time doing hard-work to support me and she is shattered now because its a lot to live with what happened to her boyfriend. I said I don’t wish pain upon you but I am not ready to meet yet. She said she used to ask my aunt about me to know how I am doing and have sent her money to support me every now and then. I said I am grateful for everything she did but I am still not ready to meet with her yet because the fact that she outright refused to believe me still hurts me. My friends have different opinions. Some are saying that I did the right thing and I need to protect my peace but others are saying that making amends will bring peace. I never said I wont talk to her in my life but I am just not ready. AITA?