I (30f) was home with my infant daughter on Friday, our last day before I returned to work. Normally she’s very willing to nap in her crib, but I guess she was feeling the change Friday because she was NOT having it. It was everything I could do to get her to sleep in my arms, and every little wiggle disturbed her so I gave up laying her down and decided to enjoy a contact nap.

And then my in-laws showed up, unannounced (but that’s not the problem, I have no issue with them coming to see the baby). Anyway, they knocked on the front door (couldn’t see me, but I could see them through the window) and I tried to call my MIL to give her the door code and tell her to just come in, but she didn’t answer.

Next thing I know, they’ve walked around to the back patio door and are knocking there. I tried to make enough eye contact to tell them to just come back to the front and use the code or to pick up the phone, but i really can’t see that door well from the couch and apparently they only saw me “look at them and then turn back around”. (I turned my head back to my phone and texted BOTH of them the code and told them to come on in).

Well they gave up. No replies to the texts and wouldn’t answer the calls, so I’m assuming they didn’t have their phones with them. And they went home. My MIL texted me later that she didn’t see her phone and it wasn’t a big deal, they’d just had a present for the baby but would see her later. So I thought that was the end of it.

But evidently they both told my husband they thought I was rude for looking at them and ignoring them, and that even though they understood that the baby was asleep, I hurt their feelings. I feel awful, but I really don’t know what else I could’ve done without waking the baby after spending an hour and a half getting her to sleep! So.. AITA??