I (M28), Black, and I have an 8 year old daughter. Her mom is white, so she’s mixed but she looks fully white. Pale skin, black hair, gray eyes. She knows she’s mixed, and we’ve had plenty of real talks about identity and how some people might treat her differently.

We were at my mom's birthday party this past weekend. She was playing with another kid (10M), and I wasn’t hovering over them but keeping an eye from a distance. Out of nowhere I hear yelling, and by the time I walk over, I see this kid punch her in the arm and say, “You stupid white cracker bitch.”

She didn’t even hesitate she kicked him in the stomach, and he went down crying.

His mom came over immediately, pissed, and told me I needed to discipline my daughter. I told her flat-out: her son hit my kid and called her a slur. My daughter defended herself. End of discussion.

I didn’t punish her. I talked to her after, made sure she was alright, and asked what happened. She told me the kid had been getting mean, and when he hit her and called her that, she reacted.

I don’t think she did anything wrong. She’s not a violent kid, but she’s not going to let someone hit her and insult her either.

AITA for standing by her instead of punishing her?