So I (33, F) recently posted a Tik Tok on my Instagram story that I thought was funny and motivational(at least to me) —it was related to weight. It wasn’t directed at anyone, no names—just general humor. One of my friends (we’ll call her Sarah) messaged me saying the post was insensitive and hurtful, especially because she’s struggled with her weight her whole life.

For context: Sarah had weight loss surgery a while ago, but hasn’t really made lifestyle changes since. She’s still struggling with her weight, and I’ve noticed over time that she tends to deflect responsibility for it—blaming medical issues, metabolism, etc. I’ve always kept my opinions to myself, but it’s frustrating to see her stay stuck in this pattern.

When she messaged me, I didn’t want to start a whole back-and-forth, so I replied simply with: “I hear you, and I know weight stuff can be super personal.”

She followed up with a long message implying I was being insensitive, that I’ve changed, and that she was unfollowing me because I’m not the same person she used to know. It felt really over-the-top, like she was playing the victim and using the situation to question my character. She still hasn’t actually unfollowed me, by the way.

I haven’t responded, because honestly? I don’t want to get pulled into drama. I know myself—I’d end up being blunt, and it would just spiral. I prefer my peace, I’m not confrontational, and I felt like I already acknowledged her feelings without apologizing for something I don’t think was wrong.

Now I feel a little guilty for not replying again, but also annoyed because the whole thing feels unnecessary and emotionally manipulative.

So—AITA for not responding and choosing to leave it at that?