I 30F have a complicated relationship with my mom 57F. Mostly due to her being an absent parent to me growing up and now she wants to have a closer relationship. I tend to have minimal interactions with her due to the anxiety it brings me to try to talk with her or be in the same room as her. I would love to go to therapy to figure it out but I don’t have the time, energy, or money.

She just sent me a text tonight stating that my husband 34M, 3month old baby, and I spend way more time with his parents than her. Which is true, but no different than how we have been operating the last 5 years that we have been together and I think that because we now have a baby that she feels entitled to spend time with him and is jealous. She also stated that I am intentionally trying to keep her out of my life, but have seen her more in the last 3 months than I have in the last 2 years.

I haven’t yet responded and don’t quite know how. Part of me wants to tell her off and the other part of me would like to just attempt to maintain that minimal relationship we do have.