Parents paid for the down payment of the house 10+ years ago and I've been living there and paying the mortgage ever since. It's a fixer upper and we now want to renovate the kitchen/dining/living areas.

I recently got married, my wife is moving in and we want to design the house how we would like. Parents have a fundamentally different design idea and want to build an addition to the house (to add square footage and resale value). The parents live overseas and would only visit a few weeks out of the year at most.

The wife and I are opposed and hate the proposed layout suggested by my parents. The parents would bankroll the renovation if it was done their way. I told them we would pay for the renovation if it was done our way.

Things are at a stalemate with the parents guilt tripping me saying that I should be grateful for the financial assistance and that it should be their say given that they're the landlord (even though technically my name is on the title).

Am I wrong for wanting things done my way in this house, the house that I'll share with my wife, without outside influence? I'm getting annoyed with the overbearing parents that want control over a house that they don't even live in.

I could envision a scenario in which we would just move out and get a place on our own (though it would be a huge hit financially)