So, I (24F) was in a relationship with my boyfriend (30M) for about two years. A few months ago, I found out that he had been cheating on me with my best friend (23F) for almost the entire length of our relationship. It wasn’t a one-time thing—they had been sneaking around behind my back, going on dates, and sleeping with each other for months. And to make matters worse, my best friend was completely smug about it all. She showed absolutely no remorse and told me she ‘didn’t feel guilty’ because she ‘deserved him more than I did,’ and that I was ‘boring and didn’t know how to keep him interested’. She knew all about our relationship problems and used them against me.

When I confronted them both, they told me they were soulmates. My boyfriend told me he was ‘sorry’ but ultimately he felt more strongly about her. My best friend even had the audacity to call me ‘pathetic’ for trying to fix something she’d already ruined. It was honestly the most painful thing I’ve ever been through. I cut them both off immediately and didn’t look back.

Then, just a couple of weeks later, I found out they were not only together, but my best friend was pregnant with his child, and shortly after that, they got engaged. It was like a slap in the face. The same person who betrayed me, who I thought was my closest friend, was now starting a life with the man I loved, and they were celebrating it as if nothing happened.

Two days ago, I got a call from a mutual friend telling me that my best friend had been in a car accident with my ex and lost the baby. She’s in critical condition now, and even her family has been reaching out, saying that she’s asking for me specifically.

I feel so conflicted. Part of me feels horrible about what happened to her, but the other part of me doesn’t want anything to do with them. She helped destroy my relationship, they both humiliated me, and then had the audacity to act like I was the problem. I’ve been trying to heal from everything they both did to me, and now I’m being asked to come back into a toxic situation. I’ve been told by mutual friends that I ‘should be the bigger person’ and ‘forgive her,’ but I genuinely don’t want to be part of their lives anymore.

AITA for not reaching out or helping her in this situation, or is it justified that I want to move on and leave them behind for good?