I (33F) was the only one of four children who stayed close to home when our dad (67M) was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer last year. He lived alone after Mom passed, and his treatment center was two hours away. I moved in, quit my job, and handled everything from driving him to chemo appointments three times a week, to cooking, cleaning, and managing his mounting medical bills and insurance claims. My three siblings (35M, 30F, 28M) all live overseas and visited only once or twice for a weekend; none of them ever offered money or took over a single shift.

In his final months, Dad even rewrote his will, naming me as executor and asking that any leftover life insurance funds be used first to clear debts and then go to me for covering caregiving costs. When he died six months ago, his $100,000 policy payout arrived. Between a $20,000 funeral, $65,000 in hospital and hospice bills (I kept every receipt), and $10,000 spent on minor repairs so his house could sell quickly, only $5,000 remained.

I used that $5,000 toward final estate expenses, title transfer fees, outstanding property taxes, and to cover one last utility bill so nothing was left unpaid. The house sale closed cleanly last month, and the net proceeds went to my siblings as their inheritance per Dad’s will; I received nothing extra beyond reimbursement for my documented caregiving costs.

A week ago, they discovered the original life insurance payout was effectively spent on expenses I alone shouldered. Suddenly they’re demanding I “refund” them $3,000 each, claiming they’re entitled to an equal share of that initial lump sum. I explained (and showed them the will and all receipts) that those funds never existed for redistribution, they were used exactly as Dad intended. If I hadn’t paid the bills, his estate would have gone into collections and the house sale could’ve stalled.

Now they’re calling me greedy and selfish, accusing me of “profiting” off Dad’s death. My aunt and family lawyer agree I handled Dad’s final wishes properly, but my siblings say I owe them money. I never asked for their contribution when I was sacrificing years of my life and tens of thousands out of pocket, and I feel like I’m being punished for doing exactly what Dad asked.

So AITA...?