I turned 23 on 10th of April. For context I live with my parents and sister in a small flat. I’m studying on weekends, working full time on weekdays and after work I’m working on my final college project which is really big and requires a lot of work. I’m disabled and constant work exhausts me, to the point I barely talk to anyone. Additionally April is a very bday heavy month for my family. 8th is my cousin's bday, 9th my grandpa's, 10th mine and my uncle’s and 12th another cousin's. Often we meet up 2 times only to check down two bday's in one day.

Few weeks before my bday I went to my parents to ask them not to organise any party for me for my bday as on 10th I'll be at work till evening and after work I will be too tired to sit with the guests, and instead I rather work on my project, which they know is a lot of work and I’m very behind with the progress. Besides that it’s common knowledge in our family I’m not that big on celebrating my bdays. I proposed that the guests can just send me a message or visit our home in the afternoon, just to not expect me to be there as I’ll be at work. I say this since family gatherings are mostly to catch up with other family members more than to celebrate the occasion itself.

They said they will inform whoever plans to visit.

On the 9th of April I had home office which I fully dedicated to my college project. Because it was my grandpa's bday I sent him a text since I couldn't go with my parents to the church. I had to be visible online for my boss till 5pm. Knowing I wouldn't leave my room and was gonna work till night I didn't really take care of my looks or my room. My parents knew of my plans and knew not to disturb me because I lose focus really easily.

Somewhere after my work hours, while I was still working on my project, a bunch of people got into my room singing happy birthday. I was confused.

Turns out my parents decided to organise a surprise party because “I’ve been so stressed and overworked recently they thought they would invite everyone the day I'm home so I could have a drink with them and not worry about work or school.”

I just snapped and cursed at my mom about how I literally told them I didn't want any guests because I don’t even have time. Our flat is tiny so all the guests heard every cuss word I threw at them. At the end I was still forced to sit with the guests and later babysit my cousins in my room as they played.

After guests left my dad came into my room to scold me for embarrassing them in front of everyone. I heard that I didn’t deserve to have that party in the first place if I can’t appreciate so many people coming to visit me so late in the day, during my grandpa's bday, and that everyone else also has their jobs and families to take care of, so I’m not that special for feeling tired.

I feel like I really should have kept the anger to myself or at least say how I feel in private instead of shouting in the open. AITA?