AITA For spending too much time with my boyfriend

I (18f) and my boyfriend (18m) have been together for almost a year now. We got together in our last year of high school and we've been together for almost a year. My parents never really wanted anything to do with him so I was always at his house, because they didn't want him at mine. Recently my parents and I had a falling out, over the fact that I'd been spending too much time with him and his family. Due to me not being at home, I wasn't doing my chores or cooking. (I did most of the chores and cooked most nights of the week) Since leaving high-school (6 months ago) I have been working full time (I've been working part time since I was 16 as well as school) since leaving school I have been paying rent as well as all of my chores. I had been paying $400 for board and $400 that was going into a savings account that my dad managed. I get paid fortnightly so in total it was $800 every 2 weeks, that was going to my parents which often lead me to not have enough money to cover my daily expenses. (They paid $280 a week for rent) which essentially meant that I was paying for their rent.

I had started to spend at least 3 nights a week at my bf's house and I barely spent time with my parents. They still don't like my bf and everything has blown up, due to the fact that they don't like my BF and I'm spending too much time with him (in their eyes) things in my household haven't been good for a while (my parents would get mad at me for small little things such as not being home on time, not doing my chores on the days they wanted them done) They always hold the fact that they raised me over my head and this is how I "repay them". (Being disrespectful by not spending time with them, not messaging them good morning every morning I'm not home, and not telling them where I am 24/7. ) I'd like to note that when I turned 18 they told me they didn't care what I did and that I was an adult so I didn't have to tell them where was all the time, or ask permission for anything. (In my country once you're 18 you're a legal adult who can drink etc.) My household has been toxic for a long time now and I'm not exempt from that I've been toxic too. My parents and I had always been close despite our rocky and rough past (from the ages of 7-13 my parents were emotionally abusive and I was told countless times they only loved me because I was their child) we had reconciled and things got better. Until I started dating my BF who they hate. They think I'm too good for him, but we're both normal working 18 yr olds just out of school saving to move out. My dad's whole problem with my BF stems from the fact that he didn't go up to my dad and shake his hand and say hello (my bf was working and the time and waved to him and said hello but my dad ignored him) for context my dad has never been a traditional man so I don't see why this would bother him. Since then, my dad has hated him and thinks he's a pussy, and my mum shares this view as well because she's always on my dad's side. From this all I've been getting from my parents is them talking shit about my BF and his family to me. I had never stood up to my parents in fear they would get mad at me, because I'd be talking back, but when I stood up for my BF and his family (who has accepted as one of their own) my parents got mad and said I don't love them and I don't have any respect for them. Mine and my dad's relationship has been rocky since the start of the year and he told verbatim "he doesn't give a fuxk about me" , and our relationship hasn't been the same since.

Everything came to a head about a month ago when my mum got angry at me for not messaging her and checking up on her when I was staying at my BF's. I went back home and she got into it with me, because I had been "disrespectful and a horrible human being". She was on her way to a memorial for one of my dad's friends, and I was going as well and as she left I told her to drive safe and she said "you too I guess, I don't really care". After that, I broke down and the next day I packed my bag and have been living with my BF ever since. I have tried to reach out and have a conversation with them but they said it wasn't the right time. The same day I left I was with my BF and one of my friends and we saw them at the supermarket. I awkwardly said hello and my friend (who doesn't like confrontation) walked past them. My parents then messaged me slandering my friend, BF and I for being rude and disrespectful, they always find a way to put people down even when they're not invlovled in a situation. I haven't spoken to them since and haven't heard from them in about a month.

I've now made the decision to move out and live with my BF, but my parents think I'm just throwing a tantrum and being dramatic. I don't think I'm in the wrong, I'm just over living in a toxic household. AITA

What's everyone's perspective, open to all advice.