Both of my parents were well-paid, but my mom earned significantly more than my dad. When my father unexpectedly passed away last year, the laws in thier country stated that without a pre-marriage agreement, everything my parents owned — even what my mom earned — would be considered joint property. That meant it would be divided between my mom, me, and my grandpa.

My grandpa was 92 and had serious heart issues. My uncles and aunts suggested we not tell him about my dad's death becasue it will kill him. They promised that once my grandpa passed, whatever he inherited from my dad would go straight back to me and my mom. They even signed an agreement. At first, everyone agreed. But after my dad’s death, my mom’s mental health seriously worsen. She never liked my dad’s family to begin with, and now she started believing that my uncles and aunts were trying to steal from her. It wasn’t true — nobody in the family needed money — but she became obsessed with "getting the inheritance down ASAP," convinced that she would "lose everything" if we didn’t act immediately.

Despite many conversations trying to calm her down, she fixated on telling my grandpa the truth. I offered to talk to my father’s relatives myself to smooth things over, but she refused, saying it wasn’t enough. Eventually, my relatives decided that I should be the one to tell grandpa — not right away, but when I visited, because I live in lieterally otherside of the earth and could control the timing. I didn’t know they had decided this, I was okay with it. However, my mom immediately began harassing me — there’s no better word for it. She called me five times a day, every day, ranting about my relatives, accusing them of lying, demanding I tell grandpa right away. Meanwhile, my aunt and uncles were saying, "Your mom needs support, she’s not well, she needs therapy."

My mom refused to acknowledge anything was wrong with her, lied about seeing therapists, and even when she did see a psychiatrist and get a prescription, she refused to take it. Instead, she kept escalating — trying to sue my grandpa to "force him" to know the truth (the court obviously refused), then trying to contact his friends and colleagues to spread the news herself( not sucess becasue most of them had passed away).

All of this caused massive stress for me. I got hospitalized twice and even had police welfare checks because people were worried about me. But no matter what I did, she kept blaming me — saying I was brainwashed by my dad’s family, calling me a coward, and saying "she hope my grandpa die and counting on it" etc. She even demanded I drop everything and come home immediately (even though I had already planned to come at Christmas two weeks later).

Then, during the holiday season, my grandpa passed away.

I went back for the funeral, but I didn’t tell my mom immediately — I said I was just there for a normal holiday. Eventually I told her the truth, and instead of any condolences, the first thing she did was start demanding I help her fight my relatives for "her share." She even initially refused to attend the funeral.

After the funeral, my uncle said, “Let’s get your dad’s things sorted ASAP — but let’s also take a short break first, since your aunt and uncle were the ones caring for grandpa day-to-day.” My mom immediately started harassing me again about “speeding things up.”

At that point, I went completely no contact with her.

Now 4 months later what needs to be done has been done, and no more drama, But my mom confused — because in her mind, she didn't tell grandpa and “everything worked out” — and she doesn't understand why I’m upset.
I’m still furious even writing this, and honestly, this whole thing ruined my relationship with my aunt too — someone who like half-mother figure to me. but honestly, I don't know if I shall still be upset, becasue everything works out indeed, and she clearly needs help. She cliam I am the only one can help but my attempt to support before almost ruin everything for me.

So... AITA for cutting my mom off and still being so upset about everything