I (31M) have a son(7) with my wife(32) and the other day, about a week ago she came to me and said that she had a falling out with one of her friends, this was a mutual friend and it was over my wife not picking up friend’s kids after school because of a doctor’s appointment and a whole lotta mess tbh, it wasn’t really that serious since the kids got home safe but I didn’t ask for details(and she didn’t seem keen on giving them to me). Long story short, she(wife) didn’t pick up friend’s kids after saying she was going to because she got a doctor’s appointment (she forgot about it), making the kids wait around an hour for their actual momma to come get them from school.

Now this friend had a son who’s friends with my son and this little boy had a birthday coming up and my son of course wanted to go. I told my wife that for the sake of whatever went down with her and the other mom I would take him to the party, my son got an Invite fyi. Me and friend is still on good terms since our kids love hanging out together, they play together, we don’t live far apart, my wife seemed cool with it, and all so I personally didn’t think anything of it.

So the day of the party I got the presents, and I leave with my son to go to the party. I drop him off at the party and in my head there’s nothing wrong, this friend was trustworthy and she’s watched our son before so I’m like “okay cool, have a lil fun at the party and I’ll come get him” and I personally had errands to run at the bank anyhow. Friend agrees, she’s all smiles and I left it at that.

So I run my errands and as I’m leaving the bank my wife calls me up and says that she felt some type of way about me letting our son go to the party, and I’m asking why because at the end of the day whatever she got going on with friend ain’t got anything to do with the two little boys whore just best friends. AND I’m not trying to get involved, since, a bit, I do think my wife was somewhat responsible for the ‘falling out.

She said that she felt like as her husband I should just ‘know’ her by now and be able to pick up on her feelings, and that I went out the way to take him to the party and that she didn’t want to ruin it when our son was around but I should’ve known. I said that she was acting like a lil girl and that we’re not kids, she shouldn’t expect me to just ‘know’ and she said I was being an AH and being dismissive. I don’t think I was but I’m here asking anyway, Was I the AH?