📝 AITA for telling him I’d meet him in a month because he won’t be here for a month?

By amongdawnflowers • Score: 0 • April 27, 2025 1:05 PM


20F, 20M.

The conversation went as such, verbatim: he asked if we could meet today, I said No, I should be home at 1am. He said that I could do 2am. I said No, I have curfew. He said he won’t be here for a month. I said “I’ll see you in a month and give you your books” (books I said I’d buy him at the book fair. I mentioned them so that he’d ask me about them and we’d talk about them instead.) He said that the way I phrased it is really weird. At first I thought he was talking about the “your” in “your books.”

-I’ll meet you in a month and give you your books. -Huh? -You told me to bring you a Dostoevsky of my choice  -The way you phrased it is really weird  -Yeah I could’ve done better  -You can keep the book  -I bought them for you why should I keep them  -Why the fuck are you talking like that  -Wdym? Why should I keep something I got you?” -I asked you to hang out and said that I won’t be here for a month and you’re acting like you don’t care, I’m just asking for a nicer response, this is petty asf.

Then proceeds to explain that I should’ve said something nicer like “I can’t do today, maybe tomorrow?” to “emphasize the fact that a month is a long time,” but I can’t do tomorrow and there’s the fact that he leaves tomorrow so why suggest it? That “the fact that you don’t see anything wrong in what you said is a problem” and that “nobody likes to be talked to like that.”

Why did he lash out at my face? Did I say something wrong? I’d apologize, but I don’t know if I should.

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